Ohhh, that is a horrible habit of mine. When I ask my fiance to do something (or not do something), I have a horrible habit of phrasing the statement as "I love you but..." Example: "Honey, I love you, but can you please wipe down the sink after you shave so there isn't hair all over?" He started teasing me about it after awhile.
I don't know where the heck I got that phrase from, and I've been trying to work it out of my vocabulary. Maybe it's because I don't like making nagging statements and the "I love you" is meant to somehow negate the nagging? Or maybe it's because I take criticisms too much to heart, so I'm trying to make sure that he knows I still love him even if he's doing something that I find annoying? At any rate, it makes it sound as if my love for him is somehow lessened by whatever small, negative habit I mention after the "but."
Thankfully fiance knows I love him (no but!!!) and that I'm just quirky!