In the spirit of the holidays and maintaining both our sanity and our etiquette, I thought it would be nice to start a thread where we talk about our holiday pet peeves and the things that tick us off, as well as how we deal with them graciously. The holidays can be wonderful, but spending more time with family can also bring out the worst in us sometimes! So, let's talk about how we've managed to deal with the holidays without throwing ourselves into e-hell.
I'll start. I'm grumpy over something that is so minor it's almost embarassing to mention it. Let's say that my name is Belle Smith and my husband's name is John Doe. I received two Christmas cards yesterday addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Doe. My last name is not Doe, and will never be Doe, and my first name is most certainly NOT John.
I probably would have brushed it off without a thought (as I have with other similar cards), if not for two things. 1) The cards came from two relatives who know that I did not change my name when I married. 2) One of these two relatives has, in the past, told me I was going to he** for not believing the same things that she did. Then, despite knowing that my beliefs were very different than hers, she continually sent me spam e-mails that went on and on about how all the problems in the U.S./the world were because of people who had my beliefs, and we we are all evil, evil people. Uh, thanks, good to know you think I'm evil and the cause of all moral decay in the U.S. So this feels a bit like another stab at me, as if all good women are supposed to change their names.
So, to receive the cards addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Doe just irked me to no end.
But, I will let it go, and the only thing I will do in response is to make sure that the Christmas cards I send to them state in very clear, big letters that the card is from MS. BELLE SMITH AND MR. JOHN DOE. (And I will resist sending their cards to Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirstname Herlastname, which would not be particularly polite!)
Minor, I know, very, very minor!
So, how do you deal with the silly holiday issues in a polite manner?