My church does try to be gender neutral in referring to God as often as possible. I understand that referring to God in all masculine terms bothers some people. It bothers me not at all, but it's also no skin off my teeth if you want to change a word here or there.
But I cannot stand when they mess with beloved Christmas carols. Either leave them as is, or pick a different song if it offends you so much. Truly, are you so fragile that hearing a single "He" is going to destroy your world view forever?
I was very proud of our new choir director. One of the verses of O Holy Night goes:
Truly he taught us to love one another
His law is love and his gospel is peace
Chains shall he break for the slave is our brother
Someone wanted to change 'brother' to 'neighbor' (the rest of the 'his' and 'he's refer to Jesus, hence they are ok). New director put his foot down and said no. I could have stood up and kissed the man (except that his male partner was right there, so I think neither would appreciate it
) I'm all for good liturgical scholarship, but artistic and poetic sense has a place too. Plus getting lyrics 'wrong' just drives me batpoo.
