As I've posted here before, I have some delightfully toxic family members...among them my mother and Dear Brother.
DB has gone out of his way to cause trouble for me over another family issue. So much trouble that the local police department have issued a warrant for his arrest. But that's another story.
DB had a message passed to me that he did not want me to send Christmas cards or gifts to him, our mother, or his family. That's all well and good. Why on earth would I spend time and money choosing a gift that will not be welcomed?
However, I don't think he told mother about this. Mother is...well, let's be polite and refer to her as entitled. I have no doubt that on Christmas Day I shall receive a phone call from her crying that I am an awful daughter because I failed to send her a card or gift. I fully intend to reply that I am honoring a request made by DB, and that if she's upset, she needs to take it up with him.
Naturally, mother will not believe one of her golden children, DB, said such a thing. My planned response is to tell her that she doesn't have to believe me. She is more than welcome to call the Law Enforcement Center and ask her local Police Chief, who was kind enough to pass DB's message on to me. Then I shall hang up.
Nope, Norman Rockwell doesn't live here.