At what age do you stop the 'kids only' gifts?

[lady_disdain]

In my family, the kids basically did the transition themselves, by asking to be included in the adult name drawing. This may be motivated by feeling too old to be with the kiddies, because their older sibilings have changed groups or simply because the gifts are better in the adult exchange  (since each person only gets one gift, we tend to spend more than on a kid that will receive 10 gifts).

[caranfin]

If you aren't close enough to call them then sending their kids presents seems a little odd to me.

Pod that.

[nolechica]

As the 18yo has teenage sibs, I think it needs to be all or nothing, otherwise next year you have two at 18+ and the same dilemma.

[lkdrymom]

This is true, I have little or no contact with these people all year. We used to get together for Christmas but no more. The only time we do get together is if they are having some sort of party which is usually a gift giving occassion (graduations, etc). It does seem silly to continue with the gifts but if they continue, I feel like I should. BUT I have a real hard time sending someone who is over 18 a check. At that point I consider them an adult no matter what 'stage' their life is in.  I also feel like I can't continue with the oldest as I have already stopped the gifts for his cousin who is a year older in another family.

Just a side note. For all the years we have been giving Christmas gifts, I have received just one Thank You note...it was last year...it was written by their mother.

[KenveeB]

We get one year grace period after high school graduation, then you're part of the adult name draw.  The grace period is because the mothers of the two oldest grandkids couldn't handle the idea that their babies were grown the first year! 

[green ferns]

We get one year grace period after high school graduation, then you're part of the adult name draw.  The grace period is because the mothers of the two oldest grandkids couldn't handle the idea that their babies were grown the first year! 

I love this! 

[magicdomino]

My cut-off date is when the kid gets out of school.  If he/she goes to college, I'll continue the gifts until they get the bachelors degree.  After that, they can get a job and buy me gifts.    

[KenveeB]

My cut-off date is when the kid gets out of school.  If he/she goes to college, I'll continue the gifts until they get the bachelors degree.  After that, they can get a job and buy me gifts.    

What if they go to grad school?

[demarco]

I recommend doing this by sibling groups, unless there is a really large age difference between siblings.  I think it's awkward to give a present to a 16 year old and nothing to her 18 year old brother.  In that case, I'd just give presents to  both until the youngest was 18 or so.  It would be different for an 18 year old with a ten year old sibling, probably still a little awkward to cut one off but I can't see giving gifts to both until the eldest was 26!

[Gambitgirl]

my family agree eons ago to stop giving the adult kids, like nieces and nephews, at 21. ok, we agreed to it, but some people still buy them...but they're not allowed to get sour if they don't get something back b/c the other stuck to the rule. 

[Calbrini]

Im pretty sure in my family the gifts for Christmas and birthdays stop at 16 (schol leaving age in the UK). The only exception is the 21st birthday.