My mom is notorious for giving away things of MINE to other people. I got this email this morning.
I still have your green afghan that my mom made for you. She has been wanting to make another one for *Susie* (my sister's daughter, grandma's great grand daughter) but really canít concentrate to work on anything. Even a simple granny square.
Iím going to wash this one up (smells musty from being stored too long) and wrap it up nice for *Susie.* If you could write a little something on a card to the affect that you are passing this afghan along to her and either mail it down to me or bring it down to work, Iíd appreciate it. *sister* is having a really rough time right now as *exhusband* hasnít given her any money towards *Susie's* maintenance in 2.5 months. Three months in January. Every little thing extra we can do will be appreciated.
Um... NO!!! Granted, I've forgotten about the afghan, and although green is one of my favorite colors, this is an ugly green, NO!! That afghan is mine, made for me. If my mom gives it to "Susie" then *I* don't have one made for ME by grandma!! Notice how my mom didn't ask me if she could pass it on, or if I would mind, but instead just said she's going to do this.
I wrote back saying "No. That's mine. I'm glad you still have it. I will make "Susie" an afghan or a quilt. I have lots of fabric scraps. If you have scraps to donate, that makes it from more family members."
As for the 'no help from exhusband' thing. hm... I raised my son on my own with zero help from his biological father. None ever. I managed. My mom and sister didn't help me out. My sister just may have to give up her twice a month manicure AND pedicure and stop buying new outfits with matching shoes every week. I don't remember the last time I bought something NEW.
I will gladly make an afghan or quilt for "Susie." I will not give up one that my grandma made for me. "Susie" already has one afghan I made for her when she was born.