I could use some advice about an email I would like to write.
My grandfather has cancer, the doctors thought they got rid of it all, but it ends up it is actually spreading. His prognosis is not as good as we would like for it to be.
I would like to go visit him because I am not sure, frankly, how much time he has left. I would like to send an email expressing my hope for his health and also suggest that perhaps I could come over and visit.
Here are my etiquette concerns though:
1. I know it's rude to invite oneself over, but I think this is a sort of different circumstnace. How should I word that with out looking like I'm inviting myself over expecting like a dinner or something? I just want to go for the afternoon or something? Also, how do you figure out a date to visit someone when you are basically inviting yourself over?
2. Here's the big one: How do I express that with out looking like I'm saying "I want to see you before you die" becasue I don't really visit him that often since my parents were divorced, so it might be sort of wierd that out of the blue I want to visit. Plus, his health MIGHT turn around so I don't want to look like I'm thinking the worst, becasue I am not, I really just want to see him becasue it sounds like he is pretty down.
3. I want to somehow express that if he is not up to seeing people, I understand, but I don't know what would be a tactful way to word that with out implying that he is really sick.
Thanks for your help, guys, I keep putting off writing this email and I really shouldnt.