Ok, now let me preface all of this, by saying the below rant isn't a dig at anyone receiving any sort of social services. I'm in school to be a social worker, and I firmly believe that those programs work and help people who are truly in need. I've also been a recipient and harbor no false judgments against people who are using them.
A friend of mine recently got married. In the midst of all of this, I ended up having to run some errands with her sister, the other BM. We walk into a store and she points out a $300 tv/vcr combo that she is soon getting for her son's room. (Note, this is a while ago, so it's not even close to Christmas.) She goes on and on about how excited he is, but how her boyfriend is wanting to wait until son (who is 5 or 6, can't remember) can be with them, so they can make sure it's the one he wants.
We finish our shopping and get int he car to go back. She notices the time and nearly panics. She's running late! She needed to get up to the school that day by a certain time, to pick up her free school supplies.
That's right. She was receiving a backpack, and the full school supply list, since she qualified for the free lunch program. She then goes on to talk about all the other social services she receives. She pushes me to take advantage of everything that I can, since I am newly pregnant.
Now, this family isn't rich by any stretch of the imagination, but they could scrape by. I noticed they always have the latest gadgets, BF buys things for his truck all the time, the have DVD players installed in their cars...and yet...they are on social services.
I, a single mother, can make it on my own, while going to school, but these people, in a two income house, can't do without electronic gadgets and pull their own weight?
In any case, this year, I will not be buying them holiday presents. I've done it every year, I just can't this year. For one, there isn't room in the budget, and two, while I hate to punish a child for the parent's mistake, I feel that that is what I have to do.
Any suggestions for what I should say when asked why? I'm in the process of cutting off all relations with this entire bunch, I'm just trying to avoid a confrontation while pregnant. Friend and her entire family have proven themselves to be entitled, self-centered piggies, but I also don't feel like causing a huge fight with anyone. I'd just like to let it end with a whimper....