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dietcokeofevil

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Should I say something
« on: January 31, 2007, 10:01:00 PM »
I have a good friend and co-worker who is working at a customer site several states away.  Another co-worker, whom many people have had problems with, is also there.   My friend is a very calm person, it takes a lot too upset her.  I know that she has been annoyed with the problem co-worker before, but it was never a big enough deal for her to do anything about it.

Talked to my friend last week, and she is so worked up over the situation she's already decided that she won't be going back after her 1 month committment.  Problem co-worker has been putting her down, insulting her in front of the customer, and just being argumentative about everything.  Problem co-worker even tried to argue with my friend about what kind of car my friend drove.  Problem co-worker also volunteered my friend, who is pregnant, to take everyone to a smoky bar and act as their designated driver...without asking my friend first. 

The other problem is, my friend does not have access to a private phone or her e-mail while she is working...customer site rules.   Because of this she hasn't been able to report to our manager what is going on.  She also feels that it is too important to handle over e-mail.  I suggested that she keep a list of all the instances, particularly those that happen in front of the customer.  Being in a customer driven industry, that has a lot more importance in our managers eyes.  She still has another 2 weeks before she'll be home.

My question is, should I say something our manager?  Not the details, but maybe that my friend is having some issues with problem co-worker, so that our manager could maybe arrange a private phone call.

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Re: Should I say something
« Reply #1 on: January 31, 2007, 10:08:11 PM »
I wouldn't bring anything up to your manager - it's your friend's problem, so she should deal with it.  Your intervening on her behalf won't do her any favors with the higher-ups.

You could advise your friend, though.  Does she have a cell phone?  Does she get a lunch break?  Can she call your manager on her own time, using her own phone?  I'm having problems seeing how she's helpless in this situation.

I'd suggest to your friend that she send an e-mail to your manager - "I'd like a chance to talk to you for fifteen minutes about some issues at the customer site.  Since I don't want to take time away from the customer, can we do this before or after hours?"  They can make an appointment for the discussion.  Your friend should list some bullet points - the important ones, not a laundry list of dates and times and what was said, but a couple of points that summarize the pattern.

I'm having problems thinking of how your friend can describe this person without sounding whiny and immature.  She needs to sound like she's doing her best, but that this person is being an obstacle and is making it difficult for her to do her job properly.  I'm sure others can help with the wording for that.

Ugh, this is a horrible situation for your friend to be in.  I hope she can work things out.

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Re: Should I say something
« Reply #2 on: February 01, 2007, 07:12:33 AM »
How about writing a regular paper letter?

I think those have more impact than email.

We did that, when dinosaurs roamed the earth.