On your name change.
As one of the old biddies who was around in the late 60's and 70's at the start of the modern Feminist movement sneering at someone who changes their name when they marry makes my hair catch on fire.
At least what I wanted and what I understand the movement to encourage women to have choices.
By choices I mean:
Get married or don't get married
Keep your name, hyphenate, take his name.
Stay home and have babies
Go to work and have babies
Don't have babies and either stay home or go to work.
Breast feed or bottle feed your babies if you have them
Work at whatever job you can qualify for, but only for the same pay as men recieve for the same qualifications.
And while you are at work you don't have to put up with harassing behavior by men.
And that is what this guy is doing so tell him to knock it off.
My ideal of feminism was that people (men and women both, by the way) should arrange their lives the way they thought best with no barriers.
I know, like most movements it got bogged down and got in to politics and pinpointed on one issue conundrums that I won't mention because they are political.
Conflict between name changers and name keepers;
SAHM and Working outside the home moms;
Breastfeeders and Bottlefeeders;
Natural Childbirth and Total Sensory Deprivation with back up drugs birth advocates;
and so on, and so on
Well it just has to stop; ideally
I just think except for legal things, we as a society and individuals should just stop telling other people how to live their lives. I know the bug is in the legal things which gets political and then it gets complicated. It really is just an ideal.
(falls off soapbox and quietly hides under it)