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Standards for being a proper host/ess
« on: February 05, 2007, 01:28:41 PM »
I read CathySparksals thread, and it got me thinking.  What are your guidelines when you host an event?  When do you think an event has a terrible host?

I'll start: 

-Making sure the party area is clean and ready to go.  I also check for little things - is there enough toilet paper?  Did I remember to put the duster away? 

-I always over-buy with food and alcohol.  I think of the final head-count, round up, and get a few more snacks/side dishes/desserts.

-I once attended a New Years Eve party when I was just out of college.  The hosts, the guests, everyone was about that age as well.  A few hours in, the hosts decided to have a lot of alcohol.  Fine, whatever, it was New Years - but the rest of us were left scrounging for food after awhile.


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Re: Standards for being a proper host/ess
« Reply #1 on: February 05, 2007, 01:50:02 PM »
Well, my guidelines are that the party area needs to be set up and clearly designated as such.  All personal items and really fragile items should be put away.  I like to make sure that everyone invited has someplace to sit and that there is a place to store coats, handbags, etc.

A bathroom for guests' use needs to be clean and ready with sufficient toilet paper, clean hand towels, soap, and all personal items put away. 

I also like to have the kitchen sufficiently cleaned up-no dirty dishes from the previous meal, food and drink items that will not be served put away, etc.

There need to be enough drinks and refreshments for everyone (I also tend to have some extra). 

All the setup needs to be ready by 15 to 20 minutes before the start time of the party, just in case someone gets there early.  (If they're earlier, I will either send them away or ask them to help with the setup.)

At the party, I introduce guests who don't know each other, try to fill awkward silences by starting a conversation, and try to make guests comfortable in whatever way is possible within reason.  If I see that a situation is getting tense, I do what I can to defuse it.

When it's time for guests to leave, I'll escort them to the door to say good night.  If anyone needs a ride home, I'll arrange for it (including designated drivers when necessary).
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