Another advice columnist drops the ball.

[MDefarge]

Oh and the evil me would walk back into the reception and grab a microphone and tell the room the marriage was over and just why the marriage was over

You're not the only one.  But was there really not even a *hint* of what this guy would be like? Cause I know if I EVER thought DBF would pull something like that we wouldn't be getting married.

[Evil Duckie]

I can't believe that anyone would advise someone to stay in a marriage in which the other spouse was caught having sex with their "ex" on their wedding day. 

I would be gone and would let everyone know why and there would be an annulment ASAP. There is no way I would stay in that situation because it would happen again and again. He would be lucky if I didn't half kill him at the time.

I can't believe that this is a real letter, but even so the advice was horrible.

[snowball's chance]

I think it makes it more 'understandable' how someone could cheat w/ an ex, b/c there is a history there, but in no way does it excuse it!!!

[Sterling]

While I believe that people should try and work things out first in a marriage my question is in most marriages the person who performs the marriage has to sign the license and then have it recorded.  That can take a day or two.  If your husband can't not cheat on you during your wedding reception I think you have everyright to ask the person who performed the ceremoney for the license back and tear it up.  then you are not really married at all.

there is no way I would stay married to someone who did that.  and how do they know it was just this one time.  He could have been cheating with his ex-wife all along.  that was very very bad advice.

[Lisbeth]

Is the publication going to print all the replies panning this advice that readers are bound to send?

[Pixie]

Oh My Goodness, I SO would not be married to him!


Very bad advice, in my opinion.

[Gambitgirl]

she didn't drop the ball...she's not even on the freaking court with that one!

are there ANY qualifications at all to be an advice columnist...of do you just have to be in really deep denial about how the world works?

[Lisbeth]

she didn't drop the ball...she's not even on the freaking court with that one!

are there ANY qualifications at all to be an advice columnist...of do you just have to be in really deep denial about how the world works?

The only requirement is an overpowering ego and self-confidence.  Intelligence and empathy are not required.

[Mrs. Eclipse]

she didn't drop the ball...she's not even on the freaking court with that one!

are there ANY qualifications at all to be an advice columnist...of do you just have to be in really deep denial about how the world works?

The only requirement is an overpowering ego and self-confidence.  Intelligence and empathy are not required.

Also, if people to write in and clue you in on how the world works, you have to be able to cover your ears and go "La la la la la!"  It's harder than it looks.

[Gambitgirl]

she didn't drop the ball...she's not even on the freaking court with that one!

are there ANY qualifications at all to be an advice columnist...of do you just have to be in really deep denial about how the world works?

The only requirement is an overpowering ego and self-confidence.  Intelligence and empathy are not required.

no kidding...just read dear prudence for proof of the lack of empathy.

[twinkletoes]

I like Dear Prudence, especially the most recent one.  She's blunt, but I think it's good. 

[Clara Bow]

He thought it was okay because it was the ex? Oh bilge, he was trying to keep from getting yanked inside out.
And that columnist was as wrong as a ballet boot...

[Lisbeth]

I like Dear Prudence, especially the most recent one.  She's blunt, but I think it's good. 

Unless it's a matter of deciding not to have children.

A while back someone wrote to the current Dear Prudence (Emily Yoffe) saying that her family kept putting pressure on her to have children even though she didn't want them, and Prudence replied that she should reconsider her decision.

[Twik]

Not just a little sub-par, but totally outside the solar system.

What planet is Dr. Rosie living on that she would advise a bride who caught her groom in the act with his ex-wife at their wedding reception to stay married to that total "Donkey's head covering"?

Definitely not earth.

Well, she's a sex councillor. And many of them (not all, but an unfortunate subsection) are of the impression that no sex is ever "bad" or "immoral". (I recall seeing one on TV going on about how if your mate is having sex with other people, you should apologize to them for not giving them what they clearly need. Not the mention the one who felt so sorry for Jeffrey Dahmer - society is so intolerant of necrophiles....)

So, if what the man did cannot be defined as "bad", merely as some sort of annoyance, then the wife just needs to "negotiate" an "understanding", so perhaps he avoids sleeping with her sister on their first anniversary.

[ZipTheWonder]

This columnist then advises her to stay married to the man

She actually had to write to an advice columnist to ask what she should do when her husband is breaking the vow within the first 60 minutes???

The only thing I'd have to ask an advice columnist about this would be the procedure for an anullment.