Not to beat a dead horse (or the grease spot left by a previously beaten one), but..... This thing is like the "Rude Olympics."
For the Blue (original story teller (OST) and husband) Team we have a score of:
1. Planned (evidently) pregnancy with no planning regarding the fact that babies need stuff.
2. Babies don't much care what color the sheets are. (Oddly, they do notice thread count and prefer Egyptian cotton. It's a strange but little known fact. Really.)
3. As other PP's have mentioned, most baby showers take place in a home with homemade or inexpensive decorations. Sorry, you don't get the Martyr Prize for this.
4. You (OST) couldn't figure out a suitable sucker in your own immediate family to strong-arm into holding the shower you wanted, so husband "dropped hints", not to a family member or a very, extremely close friend, but to the money-strapped, still-going-to-school fiancee of his brother. Then you (OST) were a bit snotty about you and your husband having to do things because this "slacker" had neither the time nor money. That attitude right there should win the Blue Team a Rudeness Gold Medal.
5. Having arm-wrestled someone into hosting this mess, you're sad because it isn't a surprise and you have to put some effort into it. Still not Martyr Prize material.
6. You (OST) gifted your guests-to-be with a gift registry that would choke a horse. Remember, most of those same people are not going to be in the loop about how their previous gifts meant so little that you could toss them because of a lack of planning and storage space (couldn't you have asked your mother or MIL if they could store them because of their sentimental value to you, to say nothing of the possibility of needing them again?). They're thinking, "Hey! We gave them a high chair a couple years ago. What's up with hitting us up for a spendy gift again?"
7. As a PP stated, you (OST) are doing the, "The gifts meant nothing! We wanted the people at the shower! Waaaaaahhhh!" after having explained that you wanted gifts and that's why your husband "hinted" up a shower for you in the first place. Don't get snippy if people can read between the lines.
8. Your "thank you". Ugh. Let's see....."Your generosity is noted" Doesn't exactly give me the warm fuzzies. I've only ever heard that said as sarcasm to someone being a cheapskate. FOUR mentions of them not being at your stinking shower: "We understand that you were unable to come to the shower", "despite your not having been able to come to the shower", "your presence certainly was missed", and "we haven't' seen you in some time". Don't you think that's a little overkill? How about, "Gosh! We really missed seeing you! Thank you so much for the engraved bottle warmer with inlaid maracasite design--it's just what Baby Ferdinand needed....."
9. Finally, it seems like you offered a "Get Out of the Shower Free" card to those who dropped off "suitable" (in your opinion) bribes...I mean, gifts, prior to the event.
For the Red Team (3 guests):
1. No screaming allowed.
2. Demanding a gift back unless it's a ring and the engagement has been broken or unless the person has done something so heinous as to be unbelievable ("Give me back that book I gave you! I don't give gifts to the person who killed both my parents and my goldfish, you cad!!!"), is rude.
3. Prompt RSVP's are required by law.
I think the OST and husband win the prize for rude.