Not to beat a dead horse (or the grease spot left by a previously beaten one), but..... This thing is like the "Rude Olympics."
For the Blue (original story teller (OST) and husband) Team we have a score of:
1. Planned (evidently) pregnancy with no planning regarding the fact that babies need stuff.
Honestly, while I love this thread, and agree with pretty much everything that has been said (and otherwise think that Fidgets' score-card is genius!), this is actually the one point where I would go a little easy on the MTB. We really don't know whether the pregnancy was planned or unplanned- it could easily have been either (hey, even the best
, most rigorously-used protection isn't 100%). Either way, though, my reading of the story was that, at the time the MTB became pregnant, things actually weren't quite so dire. Yes, she says that both she and her husband are unemployed, but the reason she wasn't working was actually because
of the pregnancy- she had had to stop working and go on disability because of the complications she was having. From what I can see, the sequence of events was not "Both husband and wife are unemployed and they get pregnant" but more "Wife, at least, is gainfully employed. Pregnancy ensues. Complications develop in pregnancy, so wife must stop being gainfully employed and collect disability." Sometimes, no matter how carefully you plan things, the rug still gets pulled out from under you. This is actually what happened to my DH and me. We got married shortly before I started my senior year of college. I was going to school full-time, so not working, but DH had a good job. However, three months after our wedding, DH got laid off. A week or two later, we found out I was pregnant, and BAM! There we were- a college senior and her unemployed husband with a baby on the way. It was not what we expected, and not the ideal situation, but it wasn't the result of us being irresponsible, and I would really hate to think that people were commenting on and speculating about the state of our family planning when it was really none of their business, or seeing our pregnancy in those less than perfect circumstances as a mark against us. As I said, sometimes the rug just gets pulled out from under you, and, having been there myself, this is where I would really try to give the LW the benefit of the doubt.
Of course, none of that excuses the long litany of martyred self-justification that follows...