You know, it's not just the assumption that the writer would be happier with a man - it's the assumption that she needs to be "actively pursuing" one, as if she should be setting out Malaysian mantraps on the path to the library.
Malaysian mantraps, that's funny.
But this post kind of embodies the attitude, "You won't ever be happy in life if you don't live my way." People can be very closed minded without realizing it. That's what really ticks me off.
What if this girl never gets married, or doesn't even care for dating
? And one day she's in her forties and she writes to the advice columnist saying something like, "My family's bugging me because I didn't take a job with higher pay. I love my current job, I make enough now to support me, how can I tell them that's enough for me?" Would the advice columnist go, "Well, first off, let me say if you had gotten married when you were in college you'd be getting two paychecks and your family would get off your back. But anyway, here's what you say..."
Am I overreacting with that last paragraph or is it close to the mark?
And may I add, most of the adult couples I know and knew grewing up had those stories where they just kind of met, and were friends, and fell in love. No Malaysian mantraps necessary.