Why is it that the women get blamed when thank you cards are not sent? Men are perfectly capable of writing them, and why should we excuse their behavior just because they're "men?"
My DH and I split the thank you cards for our wedding, and he was slower than me, but of course people blame me (including MIL). The same thing just happened to my friend. She got married this past November. Her thank you cards are all out, but her husband is still writing them. Who does people blame? The bride. One of her DH's cousins even called her and asked her where the thank you cards were, and when she said that DH was still writing them, the cousin said that it was HER job to make sure they go out.
Another friend just had a baby, it was a complicated delivery, and she had problems. So her DH took over the thank-you cards duty while she's recuperating. Her MIL was aghast that he was writing them and told him that it was the mom's job, despite the fact that the mom was still ill.
OUCH! That hit my Woman Nerve! It seems women are born with a big sign on their back, front and forehead that says, "Blame me!"
If the house is a mess, blame me!
If we run out of milk, bread or toilet paper, blame me!
If anyone's unders are tattle tale gray, blame me!
If the kids are brats, blame me!
If no one gets to their dental or medical appointments or anywhere else on time, blame me!
If anyone's special day is forgotten, blame me!
If there are meddling in-laws, blame the MIL or the SIL.
Luckily, the second time around I married someone who doesn't expect me to do any of the above...he even does his own laundry (YAY). But that doesn't stop other people from thinking whatever. I remember one time his mom made a "casual" comment about washing woodwork (Was that a hint?), intimating that you can keep a man happy if you do xyz. So I added it to his to-do list so he could be happy. (well, I should have, anyway.) Heck, I was working 40 hours a week and more, and had kids to take care of, to boot! (See? There I go blaming my MIL!)
Whew! I didn't know I was so pent up!