I just told you that!

[Ko-Ko]

This is a major pet peeve of mine. I was at band practice today when Joe the Pseudo Percussionist (he's just taking band for the performance art credit-he can't even play suspended cymbal right and that's the easiest thing there is) asked me where one of the instruments was. I told him I had put it in the practice room. Later, I heard him asking someone else where the same instrument was. I asked if it was in the practice room, and he said he hadn't checked!  Why would he ask me where something was if he was going to ask someone else and completely disregard what I said? This happens to me all the time, and I can't stand it! Have any of you experienced this?

Ko-Ko
 

[Sophia]

I got that from adults, as a teenager.  I remember one time I was helping my mom and her friends set up for the church bazaar.  There 4 of us trying to figure out how to set up the tables.  I said, "Why don't we do X?"  I got a dismissive wave from mom's friend and ignored by everyone else.  After about 10 minutes of pondering, mom's friend said exactly what I said and everyone thought it was a great idea. 

[Bijou]

This is a major pet peeve of mine. I was at band practice today when Joe the Pseudo Percussionist (he's just taking band for the performance art credit-he can't even play suspended cymbal right and that's the easiest thing there is) asked me where one of the instruments was. I told him I had put it in the practice room. Later, I heard him asking someone else where the same instrument was. I asked if it was in the practice room, and he said he hadn't checked!  Why would he ask me where something was if he was going to ask someone else and completely disregard what I said? This happens to me all the time, and I can't stand it! Have any of you experienced this?

Ko-Ko
 

Maybe he really doesn't need to know but just wants to talk to you (or someone else) and it's an opening?

[Ko-Ko]

I don't think that's it, because after he asked me where it was, he just left and didn't say anything else. Plus he does this kind of thing a lot. Fortunately, I'm just in percussion ensemble with him. My friend is in band with him and he says that Joe will be running around looking for his instruments at the last minute before practice is about to start, then accuse the others of hiding things, when they were exactly where they were supposed to be.  This might sound mean, but I think Joe's kind of an idiot. And I didn't just say that; it was very rude. 

Ko-Ko
 

[VorFemme]

I know the feeling - my husband does the same thing to me.  He will come in from work and ask if I got the mail and where did I put it.  Fifteen minutes to an hour later - he will ask again.  Sometimes after having picked it up and sorted through it already.....he has been known to do the same thing with the "what's for dinner" question as well.

My theory is that sometimes the brain may not RETAIN the information.  It's either that or people have forgotten how to listen because there is just so much noise to process anymore.

[Chivewarrior]

I don't know, Renee, my father and sister sometimes forget that they HAD dinner and will then ask what's for dinner... after having already eaten it. Although sometimes I wonder if it's a side effect of the male or teenage brain, especially as the effect of forgetting things seems doubled in the teenage guys I know. (Along the lines of "Hey, Chive, when are we rehearsing?" "Tomorrow at six." Then, about fifteen minutes later, "Hey, Chive, when are we rehearsing?" And sometimes this has four or five repetitions.)

[Dragons 8 Cactus]

Ko-Ko

different thought here :

He wanted YOU to go get it and hand it to him.

And since you didn't he asked someone else in the hope they would take pitty on him and go get it for him.

Dragons8

[Raintree]

Maybe he's just absent-minded, or has some memory deficit that he can't help. I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. Or maybe he's just an idiot.

[FoxPaws]

I used to get this all the time when I worked retail. The customer would ask for something and not like the answer we (front line co-workers) gave, so they'd ask to speak to the manager, who would tell them the exact same thing we just did, and they'd go, "Oh, Okay." Drove me crazy.

I also had (note the past tense) a friend that had to get everything I told her, from directions to celebrity gossip to historical facts to anything else we discussed, verified by someone else. I found this demeaning and it was one of the "pebbles on the pile" that eventually ended our friendship.

If I found that a particular person was doing this to me repeatedly now, I'd start saying, "I don't know. Why don't you ask so-and-so?"

[Pixie]

I found a cute way of handling this with my husband, and it WORKS. Instead of "Why don't you try it this way?"  I ask, "How come it wouldn't work if you did it this way?"   Then of course he has to tell me all the reasons why it WOULD work, and does it the way I suggested.     Of course he has caught on to what I'm doing, but its a way for him to "save face" in front of his buddies.

Sometimes I let Hubby "fix" things for me, and be my hero.... it makes him so happy.

[weber06]

I get it at work.  I talk really fast and if I'm excited or just really on top of things I get this look.  It says silly hysterical female.  I'm not hysterical.  I'm talking fast and while it's not professional it's me.  Unfortunately they don't listen to what I say.  Karma prevailed though.

Kept telling my friend's boss that the rep he called to move our machine was not competant.  That everytime she fixed something my old coworker would have to do it again when the rep left.  And my old coworker left at all.  Sure enough the rep came in this week and when she set up the machine it came out that she had thrown a key part out.  Her reason for not telling us.  That everyone has a lot of this part on hand and she didn't think to ask.  And then after we sent a courier to another site ($40) to get said part that's when she remembered that the other site had an old machine and their parts wouldn't fit ours.  Gues who's fixing her mistake next week?

[IndianInlaw]

I was schlepping past an eyeglass place in the mall once.  A girl came out and asked me (a total stranger) to help her decide between two eyeglass frames.

I told her to choose one style because she had such fine, delicate features (she was gorgeous) and the others were too heavy (ya know what I mean?) for her face.

Soooo she went with the ones I didn't like.

I was highly amused by the incident.

[willow2483]

I am Senior My Position and I have a Junior My Position at work.  He's not so good on the thinking for himself thing, but I try to be patient with him.  He asks me the same questions, week after week after week...honestly, I am at my wit's end with him!!  Sometimes, he asks me a question and then asks my supervisor the same thing ten minutes later, which made both of us look bad in the beginning.  Now, my supervisor asks, "What did Willow tell you?" and he has to give her an answer :-).

I agree that he probably wanted you to get it for him!!

[VorFemme]

I remember a story illustrating this very point.

Man is reading newspaper and comes across an article that he just has to read to his wife.  It mentions a study showing that men only talk about 30,000 to 35,000 (I think those were the numbers) of words a day.  Women, according to the same study, speak about 55,000 to 70,000 words a day.  

He triumphantly concludes reading the article out loud with "See, I always told you that women talk too much!"

His wife looks at him for a very short period of time, raises one eyebrow, and says "That's because men just don't listen and women have to repeat everything at least twice."

Her flabbergasted husband says "What?!"

She smiles and says, "That's because men just don't listen and women have to repeat everything at least twice."

+++++++++++++++++

My husband, father, and FIL did not think that this was very funny.

Every woman in the family about choked on her iced tea................

[kathrynne]

I remember a story illustrating this very point.

Man is reading newspaper and comes across an article that he just has to read to his wife.  It mentions a study showing that men only talk about 30,000 to 35,000 (I think those were the numbers) of words a day.  Women, according to the same study, speak about 55,000 to 70,000 words a day.  

He triumphantly concludes reading the article out loud with "See, I always told you that women talk too much!"

His wife looks at him for a very short period of time, raises one eyebrow, and says "That's because men just don't listen and women have to repeat everything at least twice."

Her flabbergasted husband says "What?!"

She smiles and says, "That's because men just don't listen and women have to repeat everything at least twice."

+++++++++++++++++

My husband, father, and FIL did not think that this was very funny.

Every woman in the family about choked on her iced tea................

So when are you coming over to clean the eggroll off my monitor and keyboard?