Used three of our sayings in one rude conversation

[just me]

And when we set the date for our wedding, loads of people said to him 'Oh, your gonna grow your hair for the wedding, right?' NO HE IS NOT! Why would he?! He'd look different on our wedding photos to how he looks every day!

My DH has a very nice beard (fully grown in, but nicely and neatly trimmed and well-maintained), which I LOVE (I have always had a thing for beards). I got this same thing when we were planning our wedding "You're gonna make him shave the beard for the wedding, right?" "He needs to be nice and clean-shaved for the wedding." Um. NO NO NO NO NO! I hope he NEVER shaves it off, but if he chooses to do so, it's his head. My only requirement is that I get to watch (have never seen him without it and it would just be creepy to me to suddenly see him sans beard).

[Xallanthia]

And when we set the date for our wedding, loads of people said to him 'Oh, your gonna grow your hair for the wedding, right?' NO HE IS NOT! Why would he?! He'd look different on our wedding photos to how he looks every day!

My DH has a very nice beard (fully grown in, but nicely and neatly trimmed and well-maintained), which I LOVE (I have always had a thing for beards). I got this same thing when we were planning our wedding "You're gonna make him shave the beard for the wedding, right?" "He needs to be nice and clean-shaved for the wedding." Um. NO NO NO NO NO! I hope he NEVER shaves it off, but if he chooses to do so, it's his head. My only requirement is that I get to watch (have never seen him without it and it would just be creepy to me to suddenly see him sans beard).

lol.

My DH goes bearded or beardless as the fancy swings, and I don't much care--I do really like the beard!  (although there are a few scratchy days in the growing-out period).  My MIL made him shave for the wedding

[Midnight Kitty]

And when we set the date for our wedding, loads of people said to him 'Oh, your gonna grow your hair for the wedding, right?' NO HE IS NOT! Why would he?! He'd look different on our wedding photos to how he looks every day!

My DH has a very nice beard (fully grown in, but nicely and neatly trimmed and well-maintained), which I LOVE (I have always had a thing for beards). I got this same thing when we were planning our wedding "You're gonna make him shave the beard for the wedding, right?" "He needs to be nice and clean-shaved for the wedding." Um. NO NO NO NO NO! I hope he NEVER shaves it off, but if he chooses to do so, it's his head. My only requirement is that I get to watch (have never seen him without it and it would just be creepy to me to suddenly see him sans beard).

Don't get me started on grooms who look like someone else on their wedding days

My study partner & I were both engaged during our senior year in college.  She would pull out a bridal magazine in the middle of our structural analysis homework.  She was a bad influence on me   Anyhoo, her fiance attended the same college, but he took a summer job far away from her home town where she spent the summer preparing for their wedding.  He lost quite a bit of weight that summer, then wore loose clothes when they met up just before the ceremony.  Then he shaved his beard off the night before the wedding and showed up at the church clean-shaven.  She noticed as she started down the aisle.  She was so shocked at his slim, clean cut appearance, she stopped walking.  Her dad had to "push start" her   She told me the thought that ran through her head at that moment:  Who is that man?  Where's my DF?

My story isn't quite so dramatic.  Even though I had been married before (eloped the first time), I spent the night before my second wedding at my father's house with my bridal party.  Therefore, I didn't see my second husband until I, too, was walking down the aisle.  He shaved his moustache off that morning.  I had never seen his upper lip before.  I remember walking down the aisle with my gaze fixed on his upper lip.

[bionelly]

People tend to accuse my DH of looking like Jesus. He has long wavy hair and a long beard. He's decided that he's not going to trim his beard until his thesis review in August, and it's already as long as I've ever seen it!

I used to work as a page at a library, and the head librarian said he wouldn't shave his beard until the library got the money to add a new wing.  It was about halfway down his chest the last time I saw him.

I've currently got long hair, but mostly because trying to find a free time when I have some spare money to get it cut is difficult at the moment. Anyway, when I say at work 'I'm getting it cut' they always say 'Oh, no, keep it as it is, it's lovely, you can't cut your hair, I like your hair the way it is!'.

I feel like saying 'Okay then, I'll keep it for you, if you take on the three hours every other day it takes to wash it, the half hour spent trying to get it into some sort of style in the morning, and the heatstroke I get from having hot heavy dark hair on the nape of my neck in summer!'

I kind of got the opposite response after I cut my hair.  It had been about waist length (but healthy), and I decided to have it cut for the reasons you described.  Well, I wasn't able to really give much guidance while my hair was being cut (I had to take my glasses off, which meant I couldn't see anything more than 6 inches from my face), and it wound up a good bit shorter than I really like.  When I went to work afterwards, people were complimenting it, so I thanked them, then mentioned that it had come out shorter than I liked, so I was going to grow it out a bit more.  Almost all of them insisted that I should keep it exactly that length.  Well, I like being able to put it in a ponytail, and I don't like it constantly coming out from behind my shoulders and hitting me in the face, so I'm going to grow it out enough so that those aren't problems!

[Couch2B]

When he had a beard, women would ask me why I "let him" keep it.

Ugh!! A year or two ago my FH decided he wanted to grow a big, bushy hobo beard. I absolutely HATED it. I was very honest about my feelings, but I also made it very clear it was his right to have such a stupid disgusting beard.  Seriously, he still talks about how much he loved that beard and I always toss in my sincere hatred of it.

Most frustrating, though, were how many women would tell me to deny "romance" (ahem) to "make him" trim his beard. Ummm!?!? NO! I don't understand why they think they can do that. I would use our bedroom-time that way.
I think those girls have serious rel@tionship issues if they think that's appropriate!

Now he has a full-beard but it's nicely trimmed at a good, short length that's still nuzzle-perfect and kissable and not too stubbly. He looks very handsome with it, even though when we started d@ting he was clean-shaven and I initially preferred that. I've come to like the look of his trimmed beard.

[Sleepingmediocre]

And when we set the date for our wedding, loads of people said to him 'Oh, your gonna grow your hair for the wedding, right?' NO HE IS NOT! Why would he?! He'd look different on our wedding photos to how he looks every day!

This reminds me of something my sister said when she was very little.  My dad had VERY thick, medium-brown hair when he and Mom were married, and grew a full beard shortly after that.  By the time she came along over ten years later, he'd shaved off the beard and his hair had darkened to black.  It had also thinned out considerably, and he was nearly bald down to his ears.  Sis was looking through some old photo albums one day, saw one of Mom and Dad's wedding pictures and a pic of Dad with the beard, and started yelling, "WHO IS THAT??  WHO'S THAT MAN WITH HAIR STANDING NEXT TO MOMMY?"   

In fairness to both sides, I should also point out that when I was very young, I admired my dad's bald head but didn't know the word "bald" yet, so I went around telling people that my Daddy's head was empty.   

[Midnight Kitty]

Most frustrating, though, were how many women would tell me to deny "romance" (ahem) to "make him" trim his beard. Ummm!?!? NO! I don't understand why they think they can do that. I would use our bedroom-time that way.
I think those girls have serious rel@tionship issues if they think that's appropriate!

Clearly they aren't enjoying "romance" much.  Who would deny themselves something they enjoy until someone else does something?

Now he has a full-beard but it's nicely trimmed at a good, short length that's still nuzzle-perfect and kissable and not too stubbly. He looks very handsome with it, even though when we started d@ting he was clean-shaven and I initially preferred that. I've come to like the look of his trimmed beard.

I love DH's "nuzzle-perfect" beard, too.  Beats the heck outta stubble scrapes on my sensitive neck!  I'm the one who trims it, so I have no one to blame but myself if I don't like the way it looks.

All my babies have furry faces

[Lynda_34]

i absolutely love facial hair on men.
My son was commenting that he thought moustaches were disgusting.
I told him half the reason he was here was because of a moustache.
it took him a few minutes to figure out what I was tellilng him

His father has always had a moustache.  We've been divorced for a while so I don't know what he's doing with facial hair but I love a man with a beard or moustache.

[Asharah]

BIL has had beard for as long as I can remember. His mom hates it. When BIL and sis were getting married, FMIL wanted her to talk him into shaving off beard for wedding. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!!!!!!!!!!

[Civil Disobedience]

Count me as someone else who loves their SO's beard, particularly his little goatee - a little patch of hair beneath his lower lip but separate from his beard proper. He keeps the whole thing trimmed nicely.

I call it "the Jewish tickler."

[jellyfish]

Nobody would ever walk up to a lady and say 'You should grow your hair long/chop it off' so why is it ok to say it to a guy?  

My hair is very long and I get strangers telling me to cut it ALL the time.  Right now it is longer than knee length which is kindof ridiculous (I have a goal and once met it will be cut back to my waist), but even when it is waist length I get comments.  And my hair is nice, not ratty.  I think it has a lot to do with people wanting me to donate it, or people who believe no one over 16 should have longer than mid-back length hair.

Really though, if I wear it down I will get a "donate it" comment EVERY SINGLE TIME.  "You look just like Rapunzel!  Think of how many wigs you could get from your hair!"  IF they use my hair in a wig (some hair gets sold for other uses and some just sits around in warehouses), it will only make one wig.  Apparently it takes more than one ponytail of hair to make one wig so maybe they could get the equivalent of 2-3 ponytails from one hair cut from me.  So maybe one wig.

Some people even assume I don't know about Locks of Love.  And they act as if as soon as they tell me about it, my eyes will be opened.  Believe you me, if you have unusually long hair (even just to your waist) and live in the U.S. you ALREADY know about Locks of Love and no one needs to make you aware of it.  

All these comments are very rude and I have taken to wearing my hair up just to avoid people bothering me.  

If you put a braid in your hair and it goes from as big around as your wrist down to as big around as your little finger, you have some serious damage to your hair, and it just doesn't look good anymore

While I agree that it might not look good anymore, you are wrong about it necessarily having serious damage.  Not every hair on your head grows to the same length and your hairs are growing and falling out at different times.  Some will grow longer than others before falling out, and some are at a shorter stage than others.  So, hair looks thinner farther away from your head because fewer hairs are at that growth point even if each strand is 100% perfectly healthy.  

Also, some people have shorter terminal lengths.  This means one person can grow all her hairs down to the floor and beyond, while another person can only get hers to grow to mid-back.  And some people are able to grow only a portion of their hair super long so it looks thinner at the ends.  The lady you mentioned probably had a longer growing period and all of her hair was able to grow to that length.

Now, of course, there are some people who have thin ends because of terrible damage, but not every tapering braid equals bad damage.  

[Cherry]

I think guys with long hair are hot, and I remember being disappointed when a b/f of mine cut his long hair

Me: Really? That's an interesting assumption. You seemed to know he was a boy. (Son #1 and I had not been conversing and he was dressed pretty androgenously in jeans and a plain blue tee shirt so she obviously knew from how he looked that he was a boy.)

Excellent comeback

[CG]

Some people even assume I don't know about Locks of Love.  And they act as if as soon as they tell me about it, my eyes will be opened.  Believe you me, if you have unusually long hair (even just to your waist) and live in the U.S. you ALREADY know about Locks of Love and no one needs to make you aware of it.  

A friend of mine used to ask people how much research they've done into Locks of Love, and start giving them stats on the percentage of hair donated that actually gets used for wigs and how many they give out each year. Nobody mentioned it to her more than once.

[jellyfish]

Some people even assume I don't know about Locks of Love.  And they act as if as soon as they tell me about it, my eyes will be opened.  Believe you me, if you have unusually long hair (even just to your waist) and live in the U.S. you ALREADY know about Locks of Love and no one needs to make you aware of it.  

A friend of mine used to ask people how much research they've done into Locks of Love, and start giving them stats on the percentage of hair donated that actually gets used for wigs and how many they give out each year. Nobody mentioned it to her more than once.

If I had more energy I'd do the same!