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Etiquette of sharing with young children
JudiAU:
No, the parent wasn't rude for saying no. In that case, I don't think you should have said it was okay.
gadget--gal:
--- Quote from: LissaR1 on December 09, 2006, 10:21:21 AM ---You were most definitely not rude. However, I back up what everyone else says about not saying, "oh, it's okay."
I have a kidlet a few months younger than Wonderkid, and he's a true joy- I get compliments on him whenever I take him anywhere. But I want him to stay a true joy, and that means learning that other people are not required to share what they have with us or be "blessed" with our presence at all times :) I might say "no" just on principle, and I would have reacted the exact same way as the mom in your story. You might not have minded Wonderkid sharing your tea or playing with you, but the next person to walk in might not be so nice, y'know? :)
But you weren't rude at all!
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so true.
The parent might have been trying to discourage 'grabby' behaviour in her son, as well.
When I was in my early teens, my youngest cousins were toddlers. At the sight of food or drink, they would go up to the person with their hand out (or mouths open!) begging and whining. They were pretty persistent too. Unfortunately, my aunt would encourage it bt telling you, the eater or drinker, (Im papahrasing) "they just want to share so why dont you get some extra helpings so there's enough for both of you?" I''m not kidding. This got to be so annoying, not to mention embarrasing, that some of us were reluctant to eat or drink about her kinds. Luckily she's isn't so self-fabsorbed now and her kids have grown up to be fantasitic teenagers.
Irish Clovers:
You were not rude, however I second the opinion here that when a Mom says no, that means no. Period.
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