My dad is the organist and choir director at the church I grew up in, and has been since he was 17. So obviously the congregation has watched my sister and me grow up, his choir threw my mom a baby shower, etc. My sister was married in that church four years ago and several ladies from Dad's choir came to the ceremony. They weren't invited, but they wanted to see the family and share in our happiness, and I think particularly to see the proud dad, who many of them consider a surrogate son, escort his beautiful daughter down the aisle. They dressed appropriately, sat in the back, and slipped out unobtrusively after giving my dad and sister their best wishes after the ceremony. They would never have dreamed of going to the reception. To be honest, I'll be disappointed if they *don't* come to my (still hypothetical at this point, although becoming more likely every day) wedding!