Yesterday my dh "J" and I went to the mall to pick up a gift for my office gift exchange. While dh sat on a bench, entertaining our ds, I fought my way through the crowds at one of the stores. While in the store, I noticed that dh was on his cell but didn't think much of it. I completed my purchase and left the store.
It turns out the call he got was from a woman we know, I will call her "A". This woman hasn't called us for a while, but has known to call us at 7 in the morning for computer help...so that may give you an idea of what sort of person she is. (Unless I am just not a nice person who thinks that printer problems at 7 in the morning aren't a big deal.) "A" told my dh that she needed to go to the ER as soon as possible. So dh said that we would take her. I should also add that "A" has called us to take her to the ER many times in the past for things that weren't emergencies at all and defiantly did not warrant going to the ER. However, this time it COULD have been an real ER and we were near by, so he agreed to it.
We went to her apartment to pick her up, with her son in tow, (He is about 4 or 5) and drove her to the ER. We said that we could watch her son while she was there b/c it really isn't a place for a kid. She jumped at the idea. On the way over to the ER, she tried to make small talk. (At this point we found out the "reason" for her going to the ER, her back hurt. Nothing major, it had been sore for a week, but she felt that maybe it should be checked out.) Back to the "small talk", she never once addressed me with a question. She would ask "J (my dh), is ds walking yet?" he answered and came back with another question, then another, all addressed to "J", completely ignoring me and not paying attention if I interjected something in the conversation.
I guess my question is the next time she calls needing a ride to the ER, what should we do? I don't want to say "Take the ambulance" because I know she can't afford the cost of one. We live in a smaller city that has limited public transportation and her ER trips are almost always after the buses stop running in her area. (Say 5 pm or so.)
Also, short of taking her out back for a friendly meeting with a clue by four, how do I get her to quit drooling over my dh? (BTW, dh is aware of how she "demands" his attention and makes certain that any attention that she gets from him is appropriate to the situation.) He isn't the only man she does this will, she makes cow eyes at any man who talks to her...so I know there is more to it then her just thinking my dh is a wonderful catch and trying to land him herself. (Ain't gonna happen)