Since I've been working with pre-school aged children, I've noticed that many parents could really care less if you tell them that their little angel has been hitting other children or throwing tantrums. In fact, many children do these things right in front of their parents, but get no discipline. And of course when out on home visits parents wonder why their kid is running wild. That's a subject I could go on for days about, but I'm posting because of a particular case that came up recently.
Part of my job capacity is to work one-on-one with a child with severe handicaps. This is so the child can do some of the basic things that many children can already do, like say their ABCs or count to ten, or even grasp a spoon. Well our preschool recently had parents in for a little time with their children (something that many parents seem to have the attitude that that's why they're at the preschool, to get away from them). One mother came in. Now this woman's child is somewhat of a classroom bully. They hit, shove, and manipulate to get what they want, which works on the other children and their mother, but not on the teachers and aides. When the child punched another child at this family time, the mother said that because she didn't see it, it didn't happen. Great attitude lady.
The parents of the child I'm working one-on-one with couldn't make it, so I was working on helping them keep their focus on the activities. The mother watched this for a few minutes, then interrupted the group to demand loudly that her child get a one-on-one aide as well. The teacher said that she'd discuss this at a later date with the mother, but the woman kept demanding, practically yelling about how it's not fair that someone else's child get's individual attention, and her's doesn't. She ranted for fifteen minutes, making it impossible to do the activity with the children and other parents, and she tried to get the other parents riled up enough to demand aides for their children as well.
Some parents... and she later wondered why her child threw a hissy and screaming fit when they didn't get what they wanted during free time...