Here's the deal:
I decided to host a small tea party for myself and some of my friends. I spent days getting everything cleaned up and ready--this is the first apartment that I've decorated and was excited to show it off. I also spent money on drinks, food, chocolates, and a fresh bunch of flowers for the table.
I invited four people, all four RSVP'd, and then only one person showed up.
The first person's excuse was that she was sick and couldn't go. Well, that's fine, but I had sent out the invites two weeks before the party date, and she had my phone number. She meant to call me, but then fell asleep in her dorm room and didn't wake up until 10 pm (the party ended at 7.)
The second person had slipped, fallen, and sprained her arm the previous day (but did not call me until several hours after the party was to have ended.) She was pretty mortified that she had completely forgotten to call me and apologized.
The third person forgot about the party completely.
I guess I'm just kind of annoyed because I was really looking forward to this--the first party I ever hosted, and then no one calls to say that they aren't coming when genuine emergencies come up so that I can change plans accordingly. It was pretty embarrassing to have food for five spread out for only two people and then wait nearly an hour after the party was supposed to have started for people that we thought were going to be late but then didn't show up at all.
And now they are asking me if I'm going to host another party. Am I wrong for feeling like I've been "hostessed-out?" I really don't have much enthusiasm for doing the whole thing again, even if it means everyone wants to make up for the last time by showing up for a second party.
Maybe I could make it as potluck and then I wouldn't have to cook or have mountains of leftovers in my fridge afterwards if people don't show.