I was wondering when people start to clear the table & wash up/load dishwasher at a dinner party or family meal?
My parents in law don't have a dishwasher & FIL washes up after Sunday dinner. Ahh, lovely, you cry. Well, yes it is, but. He starts this as soon as he has finished eating his main course (he doesn't have dessert). So most other people are still eating, & then the children are given dessert. FIL is in the kitchen & wants to be on his own, which means that the rest of us are not supposed to go in the kitchen.
Well, that's what works for the in-laws, so that's fine. But I do not want it happening in my house. We're currently living in a tiny house & due to not having any dining chairs at the moment, eat around the house (DH in the living room, DS1 in the dining room, DS2 & me in the kitchen). DS1 washes up after dinner.
At the end of March, we're moving into a brand new house, where we will have a kitchen-diner. I do not want DH ordering DS1 to start the washing up as soon as the first person has finished. I wash up as I'm preparing dinner & if possible, the pots & pans as I'm dishing up, so there really isn't a huge amount to do. I want everyone to be finished eating so we can clear away properly.
Am I being unreasonable?
Now, if we have people round, there will be a different situation, becasue we don't have a lot of plates or cutlery so someone will have to wash up so we can have dessert...