This story isn't really related to the nasty interchange at the buffet, but more related to you being a good wife to a wonderful husband. My husband is disabled and uses a cane to get around, so I frequently fetch for him. Fortunately, most people recognize that he is handicapped, not lazy.
My brother brought his lovely new bride to Hawaii, where we live, for their honeymoon. We have been married over 17 years. Our first dinner together was an all-you-can-eat Brazilian barbecue. It's a carnivores delight! They bring around meat on a spit and carve off whatever you want. There's 2 small tongs on the table for 4 people. DH always drops food from the tongs, so I wield the tongs for our team. I place the pieces for him on his plate first, then take the next piece for myself. New SIL is ready with "their" tongs and does exactly
what I did. She looked up at me, smiled, and said, "I'm following Midnight's lead. She has years of experience being a good wife."
What a sweetie! I think I'm in love