Feel free to move this if this isn't where this goes.
Just a small request, and it expands upon previous topics. Can we refrain from automatically calling beer-swilling, underdressed, etc guests trailer trash and rednecks? I am married to a "proud redneck" (and is rapidly converting me) who comes from a family of them and it upsets him when I'm reading a story and a guest like the aboveforementioned is automatically given the "redneck" label. We'd like to point out that most people in trailer parks and most rednecks actually do know how to dress for weddings and adhere to etiquette, and it's a small pet peeve of ours that anyone who can't figure out how to act socially is somewhat automatically referred to as one of these terms. I've literally seen millionares pulling the same stunts.
Of course there is no rule that millionaires cannot be rednecks or white trash - in fact, I'm sure that some of them are!
FWIW, I am the daughter of a redneck who knows how to dress appropriately and can (for the most part) behave appropriately in public. And I live in an area that is probably 70% rednecks... I still use these as descriptive terms... sometimes in a negative way and sometimes in a positive way. There is, after all, an appropriate way to use redneck as a descriptive term, otherwise your husband would not classify himself as one. The mistake is when people assume that being a redneck is automatically a negative thing. I'm personally not offended by somoene using the redneck description in a negative way as long as they understand that it is not an inherently negative description.
Of course, my mother was once accused of racial discrimination at work for referring to my father as a redneck (in the positive way, btw...) at work in front of an african american subordinate who said that it was racism because ALL rednecks are racist. HA! I'm not sure you could GET less racist than my dad. Of course, this woman would not understand that b/c she has never met him and does not understand the positive connotations of the term redneck.
Trash is Trash... white or otherwise. I'm not sure how you put a positive spin on that. but I'm also not sure how that relates to the term redneck, b/c while they are often confused by people who don't know any better - rednecks and white trash are completely separate sects