The OP was definitely a different situation but in reading the thread there were many other scenarios discussed that people thought were equally perverted. While you believe that my use of the word was wrong in comparison to the OP, I disagree. There are many definitions for it including "Deviating from what is considered normal or correct" and synonyms including twisted, shameful, etc. I agree that the OP was terrible and perverted; however, I believe that perverted also applies to this scenario as this was not normal or correct, it was disgusting and twisted. As some commenters have said, their own fathers would have refused to do this (mine would have too) leaving that sort of intimate detail to the bride or she could get assistance from her attendants or mother. Instead, this STEP-father was up to his elbows under that bride's gown while she looked horrified and her mother stood by laughing, taking pictures then posting them publically. Several of my circle of friends have searched for anything to do with this "tradition" and found nothing to confirm it specifically. The old age practices of the wedding feast lasting several days where the bride and groom were stripped naked, checked for purity then sent to a bedchamber to return with bloody sheets to prove consummation of the marriage are no longer required in this day. As the subject says, the whole thing is creepy and then when you add in varying scenario facts, it goes beyond acceptable behavior.