This is an spinoff of the 'guests cleaning up' thread.
Let me start with, I dont think it is rude if a guest doesnt offer to help, but I had a situation and I am wondering what people here would think. I am totally open to all opinions, because, really these guys are my friends and at the end of the day, I dont mind cleaning up after them at all. Now, when I go to someone's house, I always take my dishes to the sink, or throw away my napkins, even help clear the table - to be fair, they are generally casual events. I never even considered that someone might not appreciate that, until I read the posts here, so I will be sure to take that into consideration for future events.
Every so often I have a few friends over for a casual night in. Mostly ordering in, renting a movie and good conversation. This is strictly a casual affair, often we are in sweats kind of thing. Now many times, they will bring their own X food to add to whatever we had delivered. Is it rude if they dont throw their trash away? I find many times, at the end of the day they will have brought over a desert like ice cream that we finish, or a drink they purchased on their way over. And they pretty much leave it where they had it when they were done with it (and we move rooms to watch a movie or chat) even if I try and clean up a bit before going to the other room.
Again, I do very little to actually hostes, other than providing the 4 walls where we meet and making sure everyone is comfortalbe, so cleaning up after isnt a big deal at all for me. But when I go to their houses for the same type of event, I always try to help clean up. The only time I dont is when one of them is hostessing an actual party (with others not from our group invited) and even then I try to help serve and clear the table a bit.)