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wetblanket

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this is how simple it can be
« on: December 10, 2006, 11:30:45 AM »
At my gym there are a lot of family programs on Saturdays, so there are a million kids around.

Last Saturday a kid (4yo boy) was racing around one of the main common areas where there is lots of traffic, and I heard his father say, in a very kind and friendly tone:

"You're not the only one in here buddy, you need to watch where you are going."

And the little boy slowed to a walking pace.

Nice to see good parenting in action.  :)


kkl123

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Re: this is how simple it can be
« Reply #1 on: December 11, 2006, 06:28:58 PM »
Hurrah for dad!  (And his son, who seems to learn well!)

One of the "tricks" I learned as a museum docent was to learn to say what you want the child to do, not what (s)he's not supposed to do -- "Walk, please" works better than "Don't run".

Works on husbands, too...  ;-)

Clara Bow

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Re: this is how simple it can be
« Reply #2 on: December 14, 2006, 02:19:16 AM »
I'm going to try that on my hubby...complicated death threats are getting me nowhere....
There are good parents out there, they seem invisible but that's just because their kids are behaving and we don't notice them!
I have finally found the bar I can't get thrown out of....

Holly

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Re: this is how simple it can be
« Reply #3 on: April 20, 2007, 03:56:07 PM »
You aren't kidding! Think about it...cutting out a behavior is impossible if there is nothing with which to replace it. Never say, "don't (fill in the blank)" Always give an alternative.

extranormal

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Re: this is how simple it can be
« Reply #4 on: April 29, 2007, 01:06:25 PM »
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One of the "tricks" I learned as a museum docent was to learn to say what you want the child to do, not what (s)he's not supposed to do -- "Walk, please" works better than "Don't run".

Works on husbands, too...  ;-)
 


Oh, I must try that.

Mow, please.

Disgusting gym bag in the garage, please.

New Viking range, please (can't hurt to try, right?)