No one said it was a bad decision LissaR1. We are upset by how proud she is about this decision, one made by many, many women. She is so proud that she is alienating her parents for fear that someone might wonder if she actually fulfilled that decision or not.
Actually, although it was posted after I made my original point, Jaywalker did
But seriously. I'm having a bit of a hard time articulating this, so bear with me. Okay.
The term "hard-earned" is actually what doesn't bother me, and is what I'm defending. The flip comments about Rapunzel in a tower and swarms of visgoths out to steal a woman's chastity are as uncalled for, I think, as the writer's original statement. I think my reasoning for this is that I'm seeing the bride not wanting a courthouse wedding and the intimidation used by the bride and groom as cause and effect, not the same issue. Does that make sense? The bride has chosen this value, achieved her goal, and has a specific image in mind. This is fine with me. Then to get the image that she wants, she shakes down her parents. This is NOT fine.
I don't have a problem with the bride's vision. Why should I? It's her
vision and her ideal, and she's not saying that everyone should have it. But that's what I see being cut down, is her vision. There is nothing wrong with wanting whatever kind of wedding you want- be it a big white wedding with all the frills, a simple courthouse wedding, a Goth ceremony, or a wedding on the beach. It's how you handle getting what you want (or not gettign what you want!) that's key.
Her behavior was inexcusable. The fact she wanted something more than a courthouse wedding was perfectly fine with me.
I'm not at all complaining about the comments that pick on her behavior. But comments like
The bride must have attended the Rapunzel tower school and with mandatory haircuts to keep the unclean hordes from climbing in and tainting her.
Is she implying that she maintained her "right" despite being gorgeous and having a lot of offers; or is she implying that she once knifed a would-be r*pist?
are more what I'm talking about. My original point was I'd like to see people cut the girl some slack for saying that remaining a virgin until marriage is difficult, because darn it, it IS!