Pedagogue VorFemme looks over her Ben Franklin styled glasses and muses on the stories she has come across about couples who WEREN'T trying correctly..........including one rather startling one about a doctor cutting her hymen and showing the bride where "things went" as her groom had been off the mark.
When she went in to complain about pain after over a week - the exam showed that her urethra had been mistaken by her groom for where he was supposed to be aiming. I don't know whether or not her hymen was THAT tough or her groom was THAT inept............but I cringed when I heard the story. It supposedly was reported medical literature as a reason to support of sex education - if only in premarital counselling.............and the person who told me about it was one that I trusted to be accurate rather than making changes to "improve" the story.
I heard that same story many years ago; I read it in a book intended to give teens the "basics" of sexuality ca. 1972. (I was actually reading it in the mid-80's, it was written around 1972).
I probably read it when it was only a year or two off the presses - having bought it when my Dad the preacher wasn't around or heard about it in a class. It has been so long since I heard the story that I no longer recall where & when I came into possession of the information.
During my graduate degree, there was a bit of information on psuedo-hermaphrodites. The teacher mentioned that when HIS teacher was young (in the forties?), a couple came in for fertility testing. The husband was a doctor. The wife...........turned out to be male genetically and female in appearance due to being a hermaphrodite............the lack of all body hair (below the neck) SHOULD have been a clue to both the husband and the fertility counselor........as well as no menstruation................but.........it was a very different age in regard to sexual information.
But the syndrome was considered so RARE that no one realized that they had one in the room with them until the exam showed NO OVARIES. They were told to adopt, as she was infertile. I have no idea if the husband was told - since it was THAT long ago - it might have ended the marriage due to squicking everyone out if the information got out.
Now that sex reassignment surgery is so much more common AND the internet is available for searcing - I don't think that it would take nearly that long to "discover" that your "wife" is never going to get pregnant..........