I think what bothers me about these sites is the underlying belief that one is somehow more entitled to have one's own personal dreams and aspirations come true than are other people, and these other people should fund one's dreams. We ALL have dreams that aren't going to come true, either because of biology, happenstance or lack of finances. When my niece got married quickly to a deploying soldier, she bemoaned the fact that she didn't get a BWW. My personal reaction was that at least she got a husband. There are lots of women who don't get the BWW they dreamed of because they never found anyone to marry, or their fiance was killed prior to the wedding, or their fiance came out, or he broke off the engagement. Lots of people dream of parenthood, but it never happens for them. Others have dreams of traveling the world, building a home, owning beautiful jewelry, wearing designer clothing, and driving expensive sports cars. For most people, they're not going to be able to afford all their dreams. So why should these website creators assume that their dreams are so much more important that others should forego funding their own dreams to contribute? If I'm not already close enough to you to know your dreams without being told on a website, and if I'm not close enough to you to talk to you and say, 'Are finances holding you back? Because if they are, I'd like to help', then why would you assume that I should be informed and asked to donate?
Many years ago, I decided to take a year off of school. My favorite uncle called up and said, 'Seriously. Is this your choice? Or are you having to do it?' I knew what he was getting at- he was preparing to offer me money so I could stay in school. I assured him that I was burned out and needed a mental health break, but the financial aid wasn't an issue. But to have sent him a link to a 'fund my mental health break' website. No.