so i have probably discussed this before, but i've made an *actual* decision. I am planning to move back to the US, probably in late may-june. I spoke with my boss already, and told him that i would work till after our conference (in May) for which he thanked me (there have been lots of issues with this conference and i wouldn't want to add any more problems). he said he will try to help me find a job in the US, but I am operating under the assumption that he won't (i mean - he probably will if he can, but I can't rely on this).
I've tried applying for jobs from afar, but that hasn't been successful. a few places had been ready to make an offer "to start next monday", but that is not possible for me. so at this point, i'll be moving without a job in hand (unless, as i said, boss will come through). I know that the job situation in the US isn't great, but I know that i will find something, even if it's temp. I know that in the end it'll be better for me financially in the US, and hopefully career wise as well. I am 54, reasonably bright, hard working, educated and have a lot of experience in writing, editing, web sites, non-profits admin.. I figure that i can work for another 10-15 years and hopefully be able to at least save up something and buy some kind of roof over my head.
So, even though I'm going without a job, and i'm not really sure where i'm moving *to* (since where i'll be living is related to where I'm going to be working), my biggest issue is DS (i've talked about him before, DS is 28, he is battling depression, has gone through a number of programs, is hopefully starting a new job on sunday. He is still living with me, is on disability which (in this country) is not really enough to cover living expenses. he will have to figure out where he will live, and how he will pay for it. I'm really torn between letting him do this on his own, or staying here and supporting him forever. he keeps telling me that he'll be ok and that if he hasn't gotten to the point where he can be financially self supportive by the time i move, then he will move into an assisted living hostel. My brain is saying that he can do this by my heart is having trouble letting go... but i know it's the right thing to do.
At the moment, i'm probably looking to move in the general NYC area (could be NY or NJ suburbs, or brooklyn, or something - wherever it is, has to have easy public transportation access to manhatten). I know that the nicer places are becoming more and more expensive (i've looked in the DUMBO section and was shocked at the rentals prices!). Another area could be the DC area.
So i guess i need a lot of hugs, encouragement, stories about people who changed their lives in their mid-50s and did well...
As I said to my sisters - our grandparents moved to the US from Poland with nothing and they did ok. no reason why i can't.