of all the card that we received when my daddy died, only one had money in it and we knew the reason why. it was from the best neighbors in the world...they would and will do almost anything for us and have. When my daddy died, our neighbor actually did CPR, took care and cleaned up the house afterwards, putting things right that had to be moved around, throwing stuff away, etc. After everything he did for us, what did i do, but forget to call him with the final arrangements. Him and his wife would not have been able to come to the funeral, but still, he deserved to be told. At the funeral home, we got a phone call from him. Somehow, he was able to track us down to the funeral home. still do not know how he was able to do that. the funeral was about to start in 15 minutes. i felt and still feel so bad about that.
since they were not able to send flowers as they wanted to, after the funeral, one evening they had me and my mom over for dinner and as we were leaving, handed us a card. It contained $50.00 that they wanted us to have since they were not able to send flowers. Since all the expenses had already been paid and my mom did not need the money, she gave it to me. I kept it for over a year in that card, as i wanted to spend it on something that would always make me think of my Daddy. I ended up taking that money and money my sister gave me for my birthday and bought a matching rocker for the rocking chair my mom gave me for Christmas.
There has been times, with no wind, that the chair will rock. It always makes me think that my daddy is in the rocking chair.
so while not an everyday occurrence, there are times that people give money. Different reasons depending on the circumstances. Nothing wrong with giving money, just no one should start expecting it when a love one leaves us.