We have been great friends with another couple for over 28 years, we travel, dine, cry, laugh, everything together. We all have similar jobs, make the same salaries, have children the same ages. Lately the issue that is bugging my husband and I is they are so cheap with the small things, yet have always been this way! If they bring a dip and chips over to our house, she takes home the 1/4 left over bag, if they bring over burgers to grill on our grill, they only bring enough for their family, using our propane, condiments, plates, electric, dishwasher, etc etc. Yes this sounds soooo petty, but this has been going on for years, and with us all tightening up our belts, we just want to say something but not sure how to without losing friendships.
Almost all gatherings are at our home, as we have a lake house with a boat, and take boat rides every weekend, with them NEVER offering to bring gas. We use our pool all the time, with them NEVER bringing over extra beer, juices, food. One weekend a year they bring their motorhome to our lake, and hook up to our electricity, they run their A/C, use our kitchen for small meals, I asked her to pick up a bottle of champagne on her way down that weekend, and that evening she said, "oh by the way, the champagne cost $18 !!! Id I ask for them to bring some gas for the boat rides, she'll just say, well, we don't HAVE to go for boat rides! If I ask her to bring propane for the grill, she'd say, we'll just eat subs instead. ......Help! Any advise?