Definetely appreciate the advice of everyone...Well called up my friend (Friend A) about her Friend (Friend C) and well here's the gist of things so far:
Well good news and bad news.
Good news: I finally talked to "Sue" and she apologized and said she understood and appreciate me talking to her about that and ask casually how many couples I thought would be intending, etc.
Bad News: She never mention anything about uninvting her friend so hubby and I talk and we're going to be grit teeth gracious and just deal with it.
Neutral News: I talked to a mutual friend of my friend and I and she (we'll call her Mary) understood and was going to talk to my friend, we shall call her "Sue to save typing, and get a feeling from "Sue" to see if "Joan" (uninvited friend) would come or not.
Mary understood the dilemna and went...you're in a really bad spot and Sue has left you hanging now about if "Joan" is planning to attend and best thing is just hope "Joan" will not come since, as "Mary" continued in our conversation," Joan, does not even really know you or your husband and the only purpose of "Joan" being there is for the comfort of "Sue" and honestly "Tendereyes, that's not your job to be "Joan's" comfort.
She went on that she was going to talk to "Sue" and explain to her that ,"Look, you can do this at your own home but Sue, you have to remember that doesn't go the same for other homes and other people really do have different ways of doing this and plus this is the holidays and right now is just not a "kosher" time to include your friend. Wait till after the divorce and she gets her life together, but right now is NOT social time and is really hurting not only friends but "JOan" as well."
Not to mention... Mary made a good point, This is just not smart. We don't know "Joan and this is NOT the time to play get to know. All we know is what she has done and the right thing, is let things play out and if we want to get to know "Joan" later fine, but this isn't the bright way to do things. If anything, it's a recipe for disaster.
And my friend "Mary" is right. Looking from that perspective..."Joan" made her bed and has to lay in it...On top of that, she is going to have to deal with a lot of stigma as well and this is not going to help make things better. If anything "Sue" is just aiding to make things worse. It's bad enough "Joans" husband and kids lives were torn apart..."
The Road to Hell is paved with Good Intentions.
So I'm going to hear from "Mary" and get an idea of how things go. "Mary" was telling me that she's already had to tell "Sue" to keep her distance with "Joan from her (Mary) family, already, due to Joan hitting on Mary's husband.
So I may have some leverage there which would be helpful...I hope.
If Joan shows up, great and Sue knows she goofed and she did apologized although she left me hanging with the stick so to speak.
Mary admitted she would be surprised if Joan shows up since she doesn't know me or my hubby and if she did, well she is only going to hurt her reputation more because this shows a lack of respect and self esteem on her part and Sue needs to realize it's not like Joan is recently widow or a single parent or her husband had left her, rather Joanabandon her husband and kids openly and commit more than one single act and didn't care that the world knew and not that she is getting divorce, the "pity me" doesn't wear well and that "Sue" is only enabling and hurting "Joan" and herself.
Mary went on and said, Joan has already destroyed her own family and right now she (Joan) is dealing with a lot of not so good emotions and it's not right to be expecting anyone to be involved with that.
