At least you now know that these people are unhinged, and can avoid contact with them in the future. I'd suggest not answering any more emails and, if you have call display, not answering their phone calls either. They'll just use any excuse to prolong the drama, and not responding is the best way to get it to stop.
You're right...and you hit it about the phone calls and emails...guess what me and my husband have been receiving all day today now...The "nutcase" is getting someone else to sending me emails and I'm fixing to send her an email telling her to stop.
She wrote now:
Long time no see. I felt like I ought to say "Hi." Things got a little awkward a few days ago, and I'm sort of glad you cancelled the party since it put me in such a bad position with Joan. She had heard about the party from (now she is saying someone else), and she seemed really excited about going to a family thing with her kids (and hubby?)
I hadn't told her she couldn't come yet when she called and told me that she had been removed from the Evite. I was a little shocked since I didn't know she had been Evited already. That doesn't really seem like a good way to keep friends, especially when she's good friends with so many of us.
I'm not mad at you, and I hope you aren't upset with me, but I afraid that there might be a little tension for you and Joan (which isn't that bad since your paths don't cross that much.) I hope in time you guys can patch it up. This isn't a Mom's Group thing, so don't feel shy about the group. Noone knows what happened except those involved. We could probably keep it on the DL and not make it into a big deal.
How are you and your husband ? Still going to have a little office shindig, at least?
Seriously, I feel like our party maybe a cover for something else and that I really feel that her and Joan were planning to use us as an alibi and now that's blown.
Do you think at this point I should tell her any other email transactions will be consider as harassment?