Should DD be sent to e-hell?
DD did not have a "sweet 16 party." Things got out of hand within her group (thanks to "that show')- competition, one-upsmanship, that sort of thing... She decided she'd rather spend the money we'd put aside for the party to go to Italy last summer. She had a great time in Italy, but decided she'd like to have a "real birthday party," since it's her last year in high school.
She turns 17 on December 21. She is having her birthday party on Saturday, the 16th. She invited 5 GIRLS. Invitations were mailed 2 weeks ago. They're going out to dinner at Fazolis (a fast food Italian place), to an ice hockey game and out for a snack afterwards if they want to extend the evening. I'm estimating this is going to cost $25-30 a head.
Clueless called last week, asked if she can bring her boyfriend and could DD pick them up, since her BF doesn't drive and Clueless is tired of having to drive them everywhere..Clueless had a response..DD told her this was a "girls only" party and he probably wouldn't feel comfortable..Clueless had a response...DD then told her "my parents are paying for this and I can't ask them to pay for someone I didn't invite.".......Clueless countered with, "That's OK, I'll pay for him."
DD took a deep breath, told girl she'd call her back, hung up the phone & LOST it.
DD slept on it, called Clueless back and told her "I'm sorry, some things have come up and the party is cancelled."
She told me she decided that was the most polite way to handle it, since correcting someone else's lack of manners isn't polite.
She asked for my opinion about how she handled it, and frankly, I was speechless. She's pretty socially astute, but I'm not sure about this.......
Opinions on a better way she could have handled this?