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What do you mean it's a secret?!?
Ticia:
I actually don't agree that you should let it go. Honestly, the teachers have to realise that some of the kids are going to blab to their parents. The teacher will get over it.
But most of all: You aren't crazy to ask why someone was taking pictures of your kids and buttoning up their pants. Sure, it was *most likely* innocent. But you do need to get the whole story, and you can get the whole story from the teacher. I would actually talk to the teacher in person, I think.
What's the worst thing that will happen if you ask about it? The teacher might think you're crazy. So what?
What's the worst thing that will happen if you *don't* ask about it? Someone might have done something inappropriate, or bordering on inappropriate. They might escalate with the next child. Not a risk I would want to take.
willow08:
Hi Tabris,
While I don't blame you for ringing the alarm bells, I would step back and keep a careful watch on this one. The pants comment and the picture comment were probably unconnected, but in a five year old mind it probably went a little something like "Pants... Mrs. XXX buttoned my pants... A few hours later she took a picture of me for a special secret Christmas craft project...I can't tell Mommy... Ooops."
I would keep my eye out to make sure a picture-based Christmas project comes home in a few weeks. Also, I'd keep an ear out for any more "secrets" about Mrs. X.
Venus193:
I'm not a parent but I agree with Ticia. This may be an unfortunate set of coincidence, but it doesn't hurt to let the school know you are an observant and protective parent.
ZipTheWonder:
I would follow up on this with a non-alarmist type of inquiry.
"Mrs Classroom Teacher, Little One mentioned she'd been photographed by Mrs. $$$$ at school today and that she was to keep that secret. She also mentioned that Mrs. $$$$ had assisted her with her clothing after toileting. Could you just clarify the purpose for the photograph and the reason she happened to be in the bathroom with Little One?"
Any reasonable teacher will say "Mrs. $$$$'s role is _____. The photographs are part of a holiday surprise."
DottyG:
Been trying to think of a way to tell you that I think this is nothing, but that the fact that it caught your attention as something a little "off" is something that you need to pay mind to. I'm 99.99999% certain this was just a coincidence. But, you're better off just running it by the teacher, because Mrs. $$$$ needs to be aware that this did catch someone's attention. She needs to be aware that even what she thinks is just an innocent act can be a little unsettling to a parent and that she might want to be a little careful with what she does - especially if, at any point in the day, she tells a child to keep something a "secret" from their parents. That statement can so easily be confused in a child's mind, so she may not want to suggest using it to the children.
Anyway, I was trying to think of a way to say all that without being an alarmist but didn't know how to do it. So, I'll just "third" Venus and Ticia's posts. :)
And, now I want to try something that's not related to the situation but that caught MY attention in the OP..... this is sooooo cool!!!
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