I have a bit of a dilemma: I am having an 80s party next weekend (March 24th), and my friend Jess and I have a mutual friend who I would prefer not to have at my party. It's not that we don't like this mutual friend - it's just that we can only stand her in small doses, as she tends to have a bit of an attitude, and constantly tells us about her surgeries (she's had two surgeries - it's to the point where Jess and I can repeat the stories word for word). This girl also feels that she has to do everything that Jess and I do, has to be invited to everything that we do, and generally whines about how she hates her job, her disabilities, etc.
Now, Jess is having a party this weekend for St. Patrick's Day, and this girl will be there. I am not going to bring up the party in front of this girl, as I do not want her thinking that she can invite herself, or that I'm inviting her. However, there are people there that will be attending my party, so how do I handle the situation if someone says something about my party, and this girl decides that she wants to come? I really do not want her there for said reasons, as I want my parties to be fun, and she doesn't seem to have fun unless someone is listening to her whine (kinda harsh, but I've known her to be like this for awhile). How do I handle this situation, should it arise?
P.S. I also live in a basement suite with limited space for company (my living room) so there's really nowhere to go to get away from her if she does act up.