How to improve a husband's "Scrabble" style

[sparksals]

This doesn't only happen after children.  We don't have any and dh seems to think that coming to the computer room with that look on his face and asking if I want to go up to play scrabble is a way to get me in the mood for double or triple play.  Ummmm... No.  It's like getting no vowels. 

Now, coming up and nuzzling sweet scrabble words is a surefire way I'll draw some vowels in order to play.

Oh amen!  No kids here either, but almost the same technique.  Hey baby, want to play scrabble?  Nope, not really.  Get me in the mood to play, and I'll pick some vowels.  Just coming up to me and suggesting it does not work.

Mine seems to think verbal is the way to go, I need physical.  Mars and Venus.  lol

[gibsongirl]

*snickers* I love you guys.  Now figure out why mine always wants to set up the board when I'm in pain and/sick and at 1 in the morning and we'll talk.  Seriously, who finds a bronchitis ridden competitor cute???  *growls* And taking dishes up stairs would guarantee ya more vowels as well. 

I'm not one for advice as we're still figuring out the communication rules for the game as well.  *sigh* Who'd have thought that communication really is the key?? 

Oh, so incredibly true!!  He's suffering from strep throat? Set that board up!
I've just come home filthy from working out and haven't bathed since the day before? Game on!
I have "lady troubles" and need a heating pad and a cup of tea?  Baby, it's been too long!   

[TychaBrahe]

Mine wants to set up the board first thing in the morning -- before brushing teeth, even. 

Keep some breath strips in the night stand. 

Maybe a thermos bottle of Scope and his-and-hers spit cups?

[One Goat to Rule Them All]

I did talk with DH about him having a conversation with "Jim," but DH flatly refuses have a "sex talk" with Jim.  Nope, nope, nope, not gonna happen.

I think that your husband is right. If Jim finds out that his wife has been telling her friends about this problem, things could get really ugly. Unless your friend wanted your DH to get involved, she could get really upset with you. It's one thing to have a friend to talk to about these things, but it's another when that friend takes it on herself to "fix" things on her behalf.

It's up to your friend to work this out with her DH. If they can't talk about "scrabble", then they probably shouldn't be playing!

[Elle]

I've just come home filthy from working out and haven't bathed since the day before? Game on!

My BF always gets really competitive and wordy when I'm sweaty and nasty after a workout. I guess it's a pheremone thing.

[CocoCamm]

*snickers* I love you guys.  Now figure out why mine always wants to set up the board when I'm in pain and/sick and at 1 in the morning and we'll talk.  Seriously, who finds a bronchitis ridden competitor cute???  *growls* And taking dishes up stairs would guarantee ya more vowels as well. 

I'm not one for advice as we're still figuring out the communication rules for the game as well.  *sigh* Who'd have thought that communication really is the key?? 

Oh, so incredibly true!!  He's suffering from strep throat? Set that board up!
I've just come home filthy from working out and haven't bathed since the day before? Game on!
I have "lady troubles" and need a heating pad and a cup of tea?  Baby, it's been too long!   

CRUD MONKEYS!! I am really struggling to keep my composure at work~this is too too funny.

[Cellardoor14]

Mine wants to set up the board first thing in the morning -- before brushing teeth, even.

Hey, mine gets the game going before I've even woken up!

Thanks for the thread though. 
Mr Cellardoor is reading with interest as he seems to think that I'm the only person whose scrabble taste have changed after kids.

[Bathing One]

Mine wants to set up the board first thing in the morning -- before brushing teeth, even. 

Keep some breath strips in the night stand. 

Maybe a thermos bottle of Scope and his-and-hers spit cups?

Great idea about the breath strips.  DH lurves mint candies, so maybe keeping a dish by the bedside table would work.

Many thanks!!

[Samantha]

*snickers* I love you guys.  Now figure out why mine always wants to set up the board when I'm in pain and/sick and at 1 in the morning and we'll talk.  Seriously, who finds a bronchitis ridden competitor cute???  *growls* And taking dishes up stairs would guarantee ya more vowels as well. 

I'm not one for advice as we're still figuring out the communication rules for the game as well.  *sigh* Who'd have thought that communication really is the key?? 

My ex preferred to play Scrabble online (solo, with the computer) towards the end of our relatinoship. When he DID want to set up a game with me, it always seemed to be on nights when I had a horrible headache that had me near tears and JUST after I had taken my super-strong pain killers. And then he kept trying to convince me, and whined/pouted, until I told him to set up the board (after all - who knew when he'd be interested in playing Scrabble again?). Things got to the point where playing Scrabble GAVE me headaches, instead of curing them.

[TaylorMade]

I did talk with DH about him having a conversation with "Jim," but DH flatly refuses have a "sex talk" with Jim.  Nope, nope, nope, not gonna happen.

I think that your husband is right. If Jim finds out that his wife has been telling her friends about this problem, things could get really ugly. Unless your friend wanted your DH to get involved, she could get really upset with you. It's one thing to have a friend to talk to about these things, but it's another when that friend takes it on herself to "fix" things on her behalf.

It's up to your friend to work this out with her DH. If they can't talk about "scrabble", then they probably shouldn't be playing!

I COMPLETELY agree with this.  Jim would be very upset to know that Jane is talking to you about this and that you talked to your husband about it.  It would make the situation very, very uncomfortable for Jim and he would be very much in the right to be upset and a tad 'betrayed'

I use the word 'betrayed' because it seems appropriate.  Imagine if you found out your husband complained to your best friends husband about your Scrabble skills.  The reason you found out is because your best friend was appointed to come talk to you about it.  Yuck.... I'd feel very icky, weird and well.. betrayed by my spouse..

[hobish]

I can't argue with that at all. Especially if you picture it happening to you. 

[VorFemme]

It's also very unfair because he *is* waiting until she's almost asleep, and not really in a position to be responding rationally to his unwanted overtures. To be honest, if someone tried that on me, they'd end up on the bedroom floor.

I've tried that. It didn't work. DH still can't figure out that if he suggests playing Scrabble in the early evening he has a much better chance of a game than in the middle of the darn night. 

Mmm...Yeah.  My husband once complained asked why we were not playing more Scrabble.  I retorted "maybe if you would bother to set up the game board at 9 instead of 11..."

Wow!  I thought my dh was the only one who wanted to set up the board really late. 

Waking me up at 3 am with the Scrabble board set up isn't going to work, either. 

Even ten minutes before the alarm clock goes off is still too danged early to play any games at all - except possibly hide & go seek - I'll hide my head under the pillow and seek any way possible to get another ten minutes of shut eye (I am so not a morning person).
 
When I have a fever of a 102 F, it does NOT mean that I'm hot to play Scrabble............

[hobish]

A few posters have mentioned this, and you know what? If Gish has a 102 degree fever and is feeling like hell in a basket he definitely wants to play scrabble. Boosts the immune system, you know.

[JordanX]

I used to sell Scrabble games and accessories and have all sorts of tips and advice on how to improve one's Scrabble strategy.  So I'd happily help Jane with that, if I thought that was the problem.

But the thing is, the woman just had a baby!!  And no one wants to play Scrabble when they are exhausted and full of hormones.

DH and I love to play Scrabble.  We play all the time, and even after 13 years, no two games are alike.  But when my babies were that little?  Forget it. 

What kind of man wakes up the mother of a newborn after she has fallen asleep?  If my DH had done that, you'd better believe he would have been crying when I was through with him!  *sarcasm/exaggeration, 'kay?*

[Camarynne]

I haven't played Scrabble in so long I think all the vowels are missing and there are spiders living in the game box.

Menopause has not been kind to me. 

Play while you can, while your minds are young and full of triple letter scores.