Birds do it,
Bees do it,
Even educated fleas do it!
I am speaking, to use a euphemism, of "playing Scrabble."
According to a dear friend of mine "Jane," her husband's "playing style" has gotten lax over the years. Since they had the baby, it's gone really downhill. Whereas the husband "Jim" used to flirt and chat to indicate that he was in the mood for a game, Jim now waits until Jane is half-asleep, then rubs up against her while moaning/whimpering ("like a puppy" was the phrase Jane used).
Jim has also developed the habit of (again, using the phrase she used) "suckling" on her shoulder while he's asleep. She showed me her shoulder -- it's abraded from his beard stubble rubbing against it.
Last night, he did the "moan-and-grope" technique, and she snapped at him. She said some things she called "regrettable" -- she didn't tell me what -- implying that her DH was behaving like their baby. He started to cry, and Jane said something like, "Do you see what I mean?"
(I did tell her that she was being hurtful.)
DH and I have no children, so I don't have any experience with this.
Have any mothers on this board encountered this type of behavior in their husbands? How does one fix it without hurting DH's ego? (I did tell Jane that she does owe Jim an apology.)
[edited for delicacy]