This story is about my wonderful mum,and what she told me a little while back.
After my mum who will be only 60 in January,has lived in a retirement village for the past 3,going on 4 years,in a self-contained unit,where she lives independantly..but also has access to the 'community' if she wishes..being on her own since dad passed away back in '97.
Anyhow,she is with a few travelling/friendship clubs to be able to have days out,weekends or hoildays away etc
One evening,one of her womens groups had planned to go out to dinner,like a bistro or something. Tables were booked,so everyone could sit together,have dinner and a few drinks(if wanted),chat etc
Now,like me,she is also overweight(sorry mum,thats the last thing people should be concerned about..but does pertain to the story)
So mum sits at the table(or one of the marked tables)and sat at the end seat,figuring that cause also couples attend,and shes only single,makes sense just to take one spot and not have to re-shuffle again to make room for couples or others.
She was early and settled in as more and more people arrived and also took their seats,as you do.
One women who mum didnt really recognise,plus a couple of her *presummed*friends were making their way to where mum was sitting,and for some reason,as she was trying to get her way past mum to the vacant seats at the table,glared at her and mumbled something about 'oh breathe in,we have to get past'
I love my mum and think she is a wonderful person,but also not afraid to speak her mind either.
But,being a public setting and ment to be a nice night out for dinner with a group of ladies,mum said something about 'oh,im sorry,i didnt realise i was in the way so much..i'll to move to the across to the other side' figuring that instead of being out in the aisle,the window/wall seat would be out of the way of everyones path.
Then it was time for everyone to go up and order their meal,get salads or soups,drinks etc.
The way the women had sat,now also meant that the *rude* women also yet again had to make her way behind mums chair to get out(all in a croweded room)
Mum was talking to other women and said something about that she would go up now to get her dinner before the lines got to big etc,and the *rude*women glared at mum again,and said 'yes,that would be good..i cant get past otherwise'
Mum let it slide,just thinking 'CRUD MONKEYS!,i cant beleive what this women is like..did she just say that?'
So mum just went about getting her dinner,ignoring stupid women section.
Coming back to sit down,yet again,*rude*women came back to sit down,and yet again mumbled something rude under her breath.
Mum exploded that time!!*L*
Shes like' Um,excuse me! I know i am overweight,its very obvious..but im not THAT big,and there is plenty of room to get around and plenty of other seats you could have.I was in this seat first,and trying to enjoy my dinner thank you very much'
I think a pretty much stunned silence feel onto the women(and probably a few others)
Soon after mum just got up and left..i mean really..how would want to stay with people like that anyhow??
I couldnt beleive that people could be so rude! Ok,people might not be able to stand the sight of overweight people,but does being overweight really make you less then a person,or less able to be able to go out and have a nice dinner with friends?
Its meant to be a social group,where friendships can be made..what kind of agenda would make you want to lash out at the first fat person you saw?
There is that old saying that you 'get more bees with honey then vinegar'(or whatever the saying is*L*)
Aside from being highly rude,also found it bizarre at the reaction and behaviour of some people out in public.