...I need a minute to vent.
Last year I went with my BF and his family to his aunt's house. I will only go again at gunpoint.
BF's mother is asthmatic. I'm asthmatic. Cigarette smoke is a trigger for both of us. In prior years she's gone upstairs or outside to smoke. Last year she decided it was her house and she'd do what she wanted, and smoked all over the house, thus giving both of us bad attacks to the point that I wasn't feeling quite well for several days after.
BF's brother-in-law is a diabetic. BF's father is a diabetic. Dinner was supposed to be at 6. When 8:00 rolled around, still no dinner, both were feeling a bit ill. BIL asked for a cookie or a glass of juice to up his blood sugar (I'm not sure if he's actually diabetic or really hypoglycemic, since he tends to have a drop in blood sugar, not an elevation). In any case, it's not dinner time, so no, no food allowed. The father just snuck a handful of cookies and when BIL looked about ready to pass out I stole a plate of cookies for him.
They constantly gang up on him, largely because he's the first Jew that's come into the family. I can be extremely nasty if I want to be, and I proved awfully fast the first time I was chosen as a target. He's not so good at verbally sparring. He's too nice. It's crazy. His daughter wanted to run over a blue canopy that covers a pool. She can't swim. It was the dead of winter. He yelled at her to get away from it, that it was dangerous, and they reprimanded him for yelling at her.
Her house; her rules. That's fine. But there is no way I am going there ever again. I just can't take another year of this. If I had brought my car, I'd have left as soon as the madness started.
And now it's time for the calls to start. "What day is good? What's your schedule?" I'll soon get to reiterate my stance, no, I'm not going. In fact, I can take BIL since he's so unwanted and we can have a lovely dinner with pleasant conversation where no one says anything nasty to or about him.
I'm dreading the impending arguments when I explain that thank you, no, I will not be attending.