k.. I have this online friend. We've been talking for several years now. We have met IRL and frankly, we are worlds apart. She came to my house once, and I drove to her house once. We live in different states. We really don't have a lot in common. She 'pouts' if I don't chat every.single.night. I don't always have something to talk about every night. Lately I just haven't been available online to talk to her.
So.. we were talking the other night and she is having another online friend from another country come visit her for a month. This friend shows up next week. She was telling me that she won't be online much. I said "That's ok. You know, we really don't have to chat every.single.night. We'll catch up when we catch up. I've been swamped at work and weekends have been packed with other things."
She then said "How would you like some out of town visitors for a few days?
"I really don't have any vacation time to take off, so, that won't be possible"
Her: "you don't work on the weekends!"
me: "That won't be possible"
her: "why not? I haven't seen you in years!"
me: "Sorry, no."
her: pout pout pout
She wanted to come over AND bring a friend of hers, who I've never met, and stay in my house! I don't know her friend. I don't care if she knows the friend, and has met her before, don't bring strangers to MY house!!
I don't really have room. Any guests have to sleep on the couches or we dig out the air mattresses. I can't afford to really feed guests right now. I can't afford to drive guests around and show off my city. And I go to bed early, like before 8:00 pm. I enjoy my down time knowing my house is quiet, calm, closed down for the night. This friend stays up until about 5 am. So they'd be up taking all night and I have a TEENY house.
Had she said something like "Hey, friendfromScotland is coming next week and staying a month. We plan on traveling a lot, like the Grand Canyon, this site, that site and we may swing up to Seattle! Wanna get together for a day if we do?" She just said "How'd you like some out of town visitors for a few days?"
I'm proud of me for not offering excuses and just saying 'No' but dang it's hard. Why do we feel compelled to give excuses, which just get shot down?