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Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« on: September 15, 2008, 10:49:30 AM »
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My mother and sister have both mentioned to me in the past couple weeks, that I need to ask my Maid of Honor to lose a significant amount of weight.

ON WHAT PLANET is this acceptable???

I keep saying no. No, I will not do that. No, that's ridiculous. No, no, no. No. I'm not going to insult her. NO.

I think I need to find a new family. Maybe my MOH's family will adopt me.
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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #1 on: September 15, 2008, 10:52:04 AM »
"That's funny. Someone told me that I should ask you to become significantly less rude."
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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #2 on: September 15, 2008, 10:53:00 AM »
"That's funny. Someone told me that I should ask you to become significantly less rude."

OH MY GOODNESS. I love it!!!!!!!!!
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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #3 on: September 15, 2008, 09:46:02 PM »
"That's funny. Someone told me that I should ask you to become significantly less rude."

Woot!  Best response ever!!!

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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #4 on: September 15, 2008, 09:47:35 PM »
I thought the point of getting married was to get a new family?
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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #5 on: September 15, 2008, 10:31:07 PM »
It might be wise to have a preemptive talk with your MOH so that if your relatives take it upon themselves to talk to her about her weight she will know that it is absolutely not on your behalf.

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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #6 on: September 15, 2008, 10:41:46 PM »
I'm sorry to say this, Shatzie, but I don't think this is the last time the e-hellions will be hearing about your sister's impeccable sense of tact and her tireless efforts to make your wedding...memorable.
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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #7 on: September 15, 2008, 10:47:49 PM »
It might be wise to have a preemptive talk with your MOH so that if your relatives take it upon themselves to talk to her about her weight she will know that it is absolutely not on your behalf.
I would agree, except that .... no matter how she words it, the MOH is going to hear "you're fat."

I wish it weren't so but it is. I don't see a way to pre-empt this one.

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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #8 on: September 15, 2008, 10:50:22 PM »
It might be wise to have a preemptive talk with your MOH so that if your relatives take it upon themselves to talk to her about her weight she will know that it is absolutely not on your behalf.
I would agree, except that .... no matter how she words it, the MOH is going to hear "you're fat."

I wish it weren't so but it is. I don't see a way to pre-empt this one.

I have to agree.  I guess the best course of action, if you can't keep your mother and sister away from her, would be to give your MOH a heads up.
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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #9 on: September 15, 2008, 10:52:59 PM »
It might be wise to have a preemptive talk with your MOH so that if your relatives take it upon themselves to talk to her about her weight she will know that it is absolutely not on your behalf.
I would agree, except that .... no matter how she words it, the MOH is going to hear "you're fat."

I wish it weren't so but it is. I don't see a way to pre-empt this one.

I agree, however, youdon't need to tell the MOH WHAT your family is talkinga bout. Just pull her aside and say that your family is being wacky and nit picking about the members of the wedding party. Let her know that if they say ANYTHING to her, she is to ignore it and proceed as normal.

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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #10 on: September 15, 2008, 10:55:11 PM »
I thought the point of getting married was to get a new family?

I meant it in the sense of family as the group of relatives I claim as my parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, etc. It's something I joke about, perhaps tastelessly, but it's how I deal.

I'm sorry to say this, Shatzie, but I don't think this is the last time the e-hellions will be hearing about your sister's impeccable sense of tact and her tireless efforts to make your wedding...memorable.

Haha, what a lovely way of putting it! I'm sure there will be significantly more drama as the wedding gets closer. Oh, you can only imagine. ::) ;)

It might be wise to have a preemptive talk with your MOH so that if your relatives take it upon themselves to talk to her about her weight she will know that it is absolutely not on your behalf.

Thanks for the advice. MOH is pretty well-versed in my family's antics, especially Sis's special brand of tact.


It might be wise to have a preemptive talk with your MOH so that if your relatives take it upon themselves to talk to her about her weight she will know that it is absolutely not on your behalf.
I would agree, except that .... no matter how she words it, the MOH is going to hear "you're fat."

I wish it weren't so but it is. I don't see a way to pre-empt this one.

I'll just warn her that Sis is looking for excuses to belittle her (again) and leave it at that.
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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #11 on: September 15, 2008, 10:56:29 PM »
I know, I know, I meant it to be ironic.  ;D
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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #12 on: September 16, 2008, 02:07:44 PM »
ON WHAT PLANET is this acceptable???
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I'm sorry you have to deal with this.  I can't imagine how anyone could think this is an okay thing to say out loud, much less request.

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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #13 on: September 16, 2008, 04:09:37 PM »
Oh my!  Telling someone to lose weight - would that be like saying "You are not bridesmaid material right now, even though I asked you to be one, but you potentially could be."

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Re: Update to I Said NO...this is getting ridiculous
« Reply #14 on: September 24, 2008, 01:10:10 AM »

I've been told not to have the woman who introduced Df and I as a BM because all of my others are size 10s, and she's an 18. How ridiculous. (Of course, the guru who provided this advice also hates said BM with a passion and covets the role herself)


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