My aunt's husband drives me up the wall.
He wanted to take my aunt to Vegas for her birthday as a surprise, and have my mom and me fly down to Southern California (we live in the northern half of the state) to watch their kids for the weekend. Great, fine, whatever. Her birthday is on October 11th. The problem?
My niece and nephew's 2nd birthday is October 12th, and they are actually having their birthday party on the 11th. My mom refuses to miss the twins' birthday to go babysit someone else's kids, which is understandable as the twins are her grandchildren. I had actually (unintentionally) made plans to be in Southern California that weekend to pick up my Disneyland Annual Pass (which has to be done before 10/29) and visit my aunt for her birthday, but that was before I knew the actual date of the party. Oops.
When my mom told him about the twins' party, he was unhappy but he understood. He then called my middle aunt, who declined on the grounds that she was going to the twins' party, too. He said, "You'd be helping celebrate your sister's birthday; isn't that more important than the twins'?" My aunt said, "No; I'm not invited to my sister's birthday celebration."
Now, he's decided to push the trip back to November 6-9. All very well and good, except that this particular set of dates would necessitate me taking 2 days off work. (To add insult to injury, he copied me (and my mom) on the mass email to the friends he's inviting, detailing the trip plans, etc - all for a trip on which we are not invited. Couldn't he have just sent us a separate email with the dates and asked if they worked for us?) I'm trying to save up my vacation days for the holidays so that I can take a New Year's trip to Chicago, and at any rate, I'm not going to take 2 days of vacation time so someone else can go on a vacation while I'm stuck watching their kids. My response to his latest email?
"I'm sorry, but that just won't be possible."
I'm sure my aunt would have a right fit if she found out he hasn't even offered to pay our airfare or anything.