Faux Pas of the Year: Bride Lays on the Guilt

[ccnumber4]

[Did you at some point live with my college roommate? 

I don't know.  Did your roommate claim to be on the college sky diving team even though your college HAD no sky diving team and no amount of reasoning would convince  her that being on this team that did not exist was impossible?

[Brentwood]

[Did you at some point live with my college roommate? 

I don't know.  Did you roommate claim to be on the college sky diving team even though your college HAD no sky diving team and no amount of reasoning would convince  her that being on this team that did not exist was impossible?

No, but I could easily see her saying it.

[jay]

Notify the loving couple that you expect the gifts to be returned as soon as the marriage collapses; it will not take long.
And, mail all the responses on this page to them to help soothe the pain your migrained caused them!! 
And, remember, through all of this, you lost some very bad friends.  That alone makes all the pain worthwhile.

[sammycat]

I had a roommate spell out in a four-page letter how upset she was that I lit a candle without asking her first. 

Sorry, but I just couldn't stop laughing when I read that.   And then the part about the sky diving....  She sounds as though she wold be worth a thread (or 5) of her own.

Now back to your regularly scheduled topic.

[VelvetMorning]

This was horrific, no doubt.  I can't even begin to imagine a bride like that.

But...um...did it bother anyone else that the "victim" felt the need to justify her stance with the declaration that the "bride" barely covered HER (the vic's) plate at HER wedding?  It, to me, felt like a desperate need for justification. 

I dunno--I guess I felt the rudeness would have been enough on its own, without the OP's insistance that she been done wrong...

[Twik]

Velvetmorning, I don't think it's so much the writer felt she had been done wrong, as that she was annoyed at being taken to task for an "offense" that the other bride found totally appropriate when the shoe was on the other foot.

[Visiting Crazy Town]

i always thought that it would take a very special and self envolved person to do something like that

Shay

[citybrat]

Another "one" with a sense of entitlement. Will it ever end? I say put on an event you can afford and that's it. Enough of this, I can't believe anyone would write such an email. The guests gave her the china pattern she registered for. Isn't that what she wanted? Maybe the bride and groom should have been more specific and say "We are selfish, greedy people, give us cash. Our invitations will go out to the highest bidders." You get the picture. Pass me the bucket...

[Belle]

And will someone please enlighten me---do the ill-mannered couples expect an outlay of the actual PLATE cost, say $79.95 for the salmon per person, or is PLATE an acronym/symbol for the per-head cost of the entire wedding, down to the almonds and rice, the STDs and the little slip listing the couple's fifteen registry stores, up through the salon appointment and the charming buttbow, with the total expenditure (possibly including honeymoon) divided by number of guests?

LOL. When I first read this, I thought "STDs? Why should I pay for treating their STDs? I don't care what they catch on their honeymoon, that's their problem!"

Then logic kicked in. (Sometimes it's a little slow!)

[Belle]

Sadly, I think it is probably totally real.  I had a roommate spell out in a four-page letter how upset she was that I lit a candle without asking her first. 

I'm dying of curiousity now...

[ccnumber4]

Sadly, I think it is probably totally real.  I had a roommate spell out in a four-page letter how upset she was that I lit a candle without asking her first. 

I'm dying of curiousity now...

Honestly, that was all there was to it.  I lit a candle in the living room after I had cleaned and tidied it and she got RAGING mad.  Unfortunately, I wasn't home for her to express this to, so she wrote me a letter instead.  I still don't understand why it took her 4 pages to do so. 

And will someone please enlighten me---do the ill-mannered couples expect an outlay of the actual PLATE cost, say $79.95 for the salmon per person, or is PLATE an acronym/symbol for the per-head cost of the entire wedding, down to the almonds and rice, the STDs and the little slip listing the couple's fifteen registry stores, up through the salon appointment and the charming buttbow, with the total expenditure (possibly including honeymoon) divided by number of guests?

LOL. When I first read this, I thought "STDs? Why should I pay for treating their STDs? I don't care what they catch on their honeymoon, that's their problem!"

Then logic kicked in. (Sometimes it's a little slow!)

And I'm slower, because I didn't get it until you explained it in your post.   

[Cellardoor14]

Sadly, I think it is probably totally real.  I had a roommate spell out in a four-page letter how upset she was that I lit a candle without asking her first.

I'll see your candle letter and raise you:

A two page letter taped to the outer door of our room, bullet pointed and color-coded.

Her grievance?

I screamed bloody murder when the guy she had given her key to; entered the room while I was in bed and proceeded to go through her desk.  At around midnight.

Oh yeah, I could definitely see her point 

[Sirius]

I am sorry to say that I do know people who support the cover-your-plate mentality.

But how is a guest supposed to know how 'the plate' is?  I would think it rude to ask!

Well, you'll just have to buy a present expensive enough to cover the most insanely expensive wedding, of course!

Maybe this is why I never got a thank-you for the wedding I went to when money was desperately tight, and my gift to the happy couple was a china sugar bowl and creamer.  Maybe I "didn't pay my share of the cost of the buffet." 

[BethanyAnne]

She actually sounds like they did some horrible, unspeakable thing to them. "we can't understand how you could do this to us"? You're kidding right?

[ashilleong]

"It's amazing how many people think that the "cover your plate" system is actually proper etiquette."

I was having a conversation two nights ago with my partner about wedding etiquette and he brought this one up. I laughed at him and explained that this wasn't the case.

He saw reason, thank deity-of-your-choice, just never really thought about it before- "It's just one of those things, you know, people do"