I wouldn't want them to even have a teensy hint that I could be the type of person to own and use them.
This hit a nerve - what exactly is the type of person to own scrabble accessories? I may be reading too much in this, but this sounds as though using this type of product is somehow reprehensible.
But I agree that coworkers don't need to know what happens (or doesn't) in anyone's bedroom.
I don't think that the Dame meant that as an insult, rather I think that she meant that she could do without the judgements that some people heap on you if they find out you're not completely vanilla in the bedroom. I don't think that she herself judges people that way.
That's not how it came accross to me. I agree with the previous posters that it sounds insulting and judgemental.
I enjoy these kinds of parties and I have even worked for a "scrabble" company, but inviting someone without informing them of the party's nature is a very bad idea.
I saw it as her making it clear that she doesn't want her co-workers to think of her in a sexu@l nature.
I think it's the word "type" that is the problem. Saying I don't want my co-workers to think of me in a sexual nature is one thing, saying that there is a type is another.
I agree. If one doesn't want one's coworkers to think of one in a s3xual manner, why not just say, "I wouldn't want them to have even the teensiest reason to think of me in a s3xual manner" rather than insinuating that there's a "type" of person who owns s3x toys and that it's bad to be one of those people? What IS the "type" of person referred to, anyway? And why is owning s3x toys a negative thing? (That's mostly meant rhetorically; I know that not everyone is comfortable or excited about them, which is totally okay. I'm just trying to explain why some of us find that particular wording to be kind of offensive.)
I think the bolded part has a lot to do with it. If you are deeply uncomfortable with, or have strong personal/ethical/religious/etc. objections to something, I can see how, even if you understand that not everybody shares that discomfort or those objections, you would still not want people to think of you in conjunction with that something. If I may illustrate from my own experience:
I am a devout Catholic. As such, I believe very, very strongly in not playing Scrabble until you are married. Now, I understand that many people these days don't share that belief. And that's absolutely fine. But even so, when DH and I were dating
/engaged, it used to really bother me when people made the assumption that we were playing Scrabble together. Why? Because that's not what we were doing, that's not who I am, and I didn't like the idea of people thinking I was doing something that went so completely against my religious and moral beliefs.
Similarly, if someone is uncomfortable with Scrabble accessories, or has religious, moral, or similar objections to them, I can understand them not wanting other people to think of them as using said accessories, even if they completely understand that not everyone has those same objections. I think that's maybe what the case is with the offending comment- not caring if other people use extra Scrabble tiles, but having personal objections to them, and as such not wanting to be thought of in conjunction with them by others, simply because it's something that would go so strongly against who the person is and what they believe.