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ShadesOfGrey

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Re: Office matchmaking
« Reply #15 on: December 18, 2006, 09:38:06 AM »

I don't have problem with office romance if its done in an adult way.  You don't engage in affairs at work (no married people) and you don't date anyone who supervises you or whom you supervise.  Physical displays of affection, pet names, and other outward signs of romantic behavior are left at home (and that includes lunch breaks). If you break up or have an argument, that also stays at home - no sabotage, arguments in the break room, or bursting into tears when you see the other person. If you can't date someone under those requirements, then you shouldn't date someone at work.

much agreed, unfortunately, most people cant actually stick to those guidelines...

my sister dated someone at work, and they did actually stick to the above suggestions and then some - so much so, that when they got engaged, many people came up to her and said things like "I didnt even know you were dating someone!" and those that knew she was dating someone mistakenly believed she was engaged to one of her male work friends (friends before working together) rather than her actual fiance!
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Re: Office matchmaking
« Reply #16 on: December 18, 2006, 12:08:55 PM »
Having to face someone you broke up with on a daily basis is not something I can handle.

From personal experience, it is absolutely horrible.  I dated a woman whom I worked with and she broke up with me -- her cubicle was about 20 feet away from mine and my heart broke every time I heard her voice.
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Re: Office matchmaking
« Reply #17 on: December 19, 2006, 12:14:14 PM »
Having to face someone you broke up with on a daily basis is not something I can handle.

From personal experience, it is absolutely horrible.  I dated a woman whom I worked with and she broke up with me -- her cubicle was about 20 feet away from mine and my heart broke every time I heard her voice.

That's why I won't date at work.  It's just too emotional for me.

I one time dated a guy I worked with and we broke up and then he began to date one of our coworkers.  That SUCKED.  But she and I were friends and continued to be so, even after she got pregnant and they got married.

Now they are divorced, and she and I are still friends. HA! I'm really glad I didn't marry him either, after hearing about all of it!
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Re: Office matchmaking
« Reply #18 on: December 19, 2006, 12:20:11 PM »
I think it depends on who closely you work wih the person you're dating. If they're in the same department, then I would say it's very risky. But if they're in a different part of the building, you wouldn't run into them much if things do happen to not work out. And any kind of PDA at work is a most definite, unprofessional no-no.

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Re: Office matchmaking
« Reply #19 on: December 19, 2006, 01:17:57 PM »
My one experience with this was so bad the details would get me thrown off this forum.